I am not going to bore you with warnings about the potential conflicts that can arise with “office” romances. I am sure you are well aware of the risks. Counselors caution people about having office romances because of conflicts of interest, favoritism, unprofessional conduct etc. However, as long as you are clear on your boundaries in the office setting and don’t bring relationship “issues” into the workplace so that it disturbs your work, a romantic relationship with a colleague can work.

I’m not going to be popular here when I say that office romances can work. However, I am neither encouraging them nor discouraging them. Each case is individual. From my point of view, it is only natural that we are attracted to others at work – we spend a large amount of time in their presence! On the other hand, there are plenty of fish in the sea and to limit yourself to someone at work maybe doing yourself a disservice.

If I am to answer your question directly about how you could use the law of attraction to manifest a relationship with your coworker, I’d simply recommend a daily meditation where you imagine the two of you together enjoying each other’s company. My preference in your case, however, would be to first get a sense of your co-worker’s willingness to be in a romantic relationship with you. If he is not willing or is not interested, I would respect his preference, give him lots of space, and let him go immediately so you can make space for someone who is interested in being with you.

I prefer efficiency. I don’t like wasting my time. I’m sure your time is valuable too. If I were you, I’d be direct and ask your coworker and tell him that you are attracted to him and you’d like to get to know him better and ask if he’d be willing to go on a date with you. Be prepared for whatever answer comes and don’t get attached to any outcome. If he isn’t interested, it only means that THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE MORE APPROPRIATE for you. Be open to the Universe giving you someone BETTER than what you expect.

The law of attraction can’t be used to get another person to feel a certain way (to be attracted to you, for example). We all have the freedom to choose how we feel and no one can force us to feel a way we don’t want to feel. My preference is to be clear on what kind of qualities you wish to manifest in your partner, and do your daily “embodying” meditation with this in mind…not being attached to a particular person you already know fitting the bill (there maybe someone better!). The Universe is always wiser and more creative than we can imagine. To understand how to create your wish list and how to embody, please refer to chapters 2 and 3 of Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook.

When I was really needy for a figure skating partner, I was initially so attached to my former skating partner, that I did not allow the Universe to give me someone else. It was only when I let him go emotionally that I was able to receive James, my new partner – the one that is perfectly matched for me, the gift from Heaven. It took me months to let go of the idea that my former partner and I “should” be together. But once I did, magic happened.

Be well, Cheryl, and good luck!

Dr. Karen