Dear Dr. Karen
Do I need to go to singles’ events? I really can’t stand them! They are full of desperate needy people. Onlne dating is just as bad and I find it very hard to know what someone is like just by looking at a pictere and reading a description. And if I start to email them they think we are going out and won’t leave me alone! I already do things where I met lots of people in a more natural way. Is this enough?
Bekah
Dear Bekah,
Know this: When you are harnessing the law of attraction to manifest your dream partner, there are no rules on what you must do. I other words, if singles events and online dating don’t appeal to you, don’t worry. The Universe can be creative to meet you where you are.
For example, The Universe gives us feedback in the form of synchronicities. If you are a person who likes reading books, the Universe will attract a book to you that will have the message you need. If you never read books, but watch television 24/7, then the Universe will use that media to contact you. We are getting feedback constantly! But most of us don’t know how to be ready to “hear” or “see” the messages that come.
As for your personal experience with singles event….just so you know, I’ve never attended a single one. Don’t even know what they are like. But I know that if I got interested in one at some point in the future, I can rest assured that I would learn and grow from it.
Same goes for online dating. Online dating works. It doesn’t work for everyone, but it certainly won’t work for you so long as you have negative thoughts about it. If you assume that all people who are doing online dating are predatory, then you will experience just that…being prey. It is the law of attraction. What you think manifests, especially when you have a lot of energy behind it.
Read your letter to me again. Can’t you just FEEL your disgust? Yes, it is this energy that attracts more unwanted “singles” situations to you.
My advice to you would be to see if you can remain OPEN that singles events and online dating are fabulous sources for meeting a partner, and that maybe they just don’t resonate with you right now. Know that they work for others. And they won’t work for you as long as you are negative about them.
That being said, I still reiterate that there are plenty of opportunities out there to manifest your dream partner without forcing yourself to do singles events and online dating because you’ve been told you should.
Do what you love! That will keep your vibration positive and will help attract your dream partner.
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
