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Will Using Visualization Make Him More Romantic?

Posted on 06 June 2010 by Dr. Karen

Dr. Karen,

I got my boyfriend through law of attraction, and had him exactly the way I wanted him to be, he is handsome, intelligent, smart, rich and responsible. But he is not that romantic and isn’t that enthusiastic towards our relationship and he takes it for granted.

So is it possible through the law of attraction to see these very new things in him that he has never done before to me? My question is – Is it possible to add some new behaviors in your partner just by visualizing it?


Dear Tia,

In my experience, visualizing what you want is just PART of the manifesting process. If you’ve read my Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook, you’ll remember that there are approximately seven steps to the manifesting process. What I’ll share here is complimentary to what I wrote in the book, so I won’t repeat what’s in the book.

It is more than possible through the Law of Attraction to see these “new” behaviors in your relationship. However, it is going to take some effort and discipline on your part to co-create this. This isn’t about him changing as much as it is about you changing. Really.

Visualization is a powerful tool if you can feel it as a “whole body” experience. Imagine ideal (and believable) situations where you are both enjoying the romance of the moment and how that feels in your body. Do the exercise daily. Your partner may notice a mysterious twinkle in your eye afterwards if you’re practicing this successfully. The power of visualizations depends on repetition AND being able to feel it in your body (not just thinking about it in your mind).

Visualizing is just one of many manifesting tools. A crucial step in harnessing the Law of Attraction is consistent ACTION. In other words, visualization without relevant action is not very useful. Here is what I recommend you do next.

Look really hard for behaviors in your partner that you enjoy and like and make sure you give him appreciation for them, each and every time. This means homework on your part. Make it a daily exercise for at least thirty days (so it becomes a habit) to look for things you appreciate about your partner and tell him about it.

Better yet, don’t just tell him your appreciation verbally. Tell him with your body. Melt your body into his, look into his eyes and glow with loving appreciation for those “little” things he does to show his love for you, even if you don’t consider them “romantic”.

Our partners are our mirrors. If you feel he’s been taking you for granted, you’re probably doing the same in his perception, even if it is unconsciously. Look for ways you have been taking him for granted and start correcting your behavior so that you start giving him the recognition YOU’D like to receive yourself.

Next exercise: start doing romantic things for yourself and for him. Bring out your “Goddess”. For example, get yourself a bouquet flowers and if he asks you why, just tell him you did it because it makes you feel feminine and romantic (only if that is true, of course). Take a bath by candlelight and ask him to join you. Start a tickle fight on the couch. Watch a romantic movie then “attack him” with loving kisses afterwards.

Take belly dancing classes and start “practicing” all over the house in your coin skirt, nudging him with your hips as you shimmy by. Offer a foot rub. Leave sticky notes in odd places around the house (like inside the bathroom cabinet) that say, “I love you!” or “I love your butt!” etc.

I want you to have fun with this. If any of these suggestions make you feel uncomfortable….GOOD! You have room to grow!

So let us know what happens!

If anyone reading this blog post has any other suggestions for Tia, please share them by posting a comment to this blog.

Dr. Karen Kan

P.S. Are you stuck at all? Do you think you could use some coaching? If you’re interested group tele-coaching, let me know now as I’m forming a coaching group soon. Click here for more information.

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Special Offer! Sex, Passion & Enlightenment

Posted on 01 June 2009 by Dr. Karen

We just finished up the AMAZING radio show with Satyen Raja, www.warriorsage.com! And if you missed it, you can still go to www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren to listen to the entire show (archived) now.

If you want to know how to truly attract your highest and beste mate, you really need to listen to this show! He shared with us what real passion is and why passion disappears in the lives of couples.

We learned about the three stages of relationship development: from Prison Stage (male domination) to Parole Stage (equality but depolarized sexual energy) to the Paradise Stage (where we all want to be!) and how to get there.

He taught us how we can be “sexy” and “attractive” regardless of age, race, looks or wealth.

And he taught us on a very practical level how we can keep the passion alive through the “little things” we do when we interact with our partners.

Any man can be a warrior – a loving enlighted one.

Any woman can be a goddess – a radiant one.

And here’s something special.

For the first 20 people who listened to the show and who are drawn to do more work with Satyen, you can participate in his Sex, Passion and Enlightenment Intensive (see dates on www.warriorsage.com).

The tuition is regularly $3000, but for the first 20 people it is only $997 (and $1500 for your partner if you have one). Wow!

Just call 1-800-815-1545 and remember to mention that you listened to the radio show and would like to register for the special Law of Attraction in Love Radio show price!

Be assured that my partner and I are signing up to go to one! Do yourself a favor. Save yourselves years of heartache and struggle. Learn from Satyen and his wife, Ann, at Warrior Sage.


Dr. Karen

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Interview: Satyen Raja on Sex, Passion and Enlightenment

Posted on 30 May 2009 by Dr. Karen

For my upcoming BlogTalkRadio show this Monday, I will be interviewing Satyen Raja of Warrior Sage.


A remarkable living synthesis of Eastern wisdom and of Western practicality, Satyen Raja combines the power of the Warrior and the wisdom of the Sage to inspire audiences worldwide. Satyen is a unique blend of power and of heart. He is a Kung-Fu Master and a trainer of the renowned Illumination Intensive. He has taught thousands of students around the world the art of ‘true power’. Satyen’s dramatic style is not for the timid. Through his teachings, your weaknesses become strengths… Quickly!

Here are the details:

Topic: Sex, Passion and Enlightenment – how to create passionate intimacy that lasts

Monday June 1, 2009 at 12 noon EDT (www.timezoneconverter.com)
Call in number: 347-945-6313?
Hit “1″ if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask Satyen a question

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Dear Dr. Karen: Why Isn’t My Dream Partner Here Yet?

Posted on 25 November 2008 by Dr. Karen

I received this question from Angel recently and wanted to share with you my response:

Dear Dr. Karen:

I really do believe in the law of attraction I have a positive outlook and act like I am already in a relationship. I have everything I have always wanted except someone to share it with. I am clear and specific about who I want. When and how will this happen? I can feel it but it’s not there…

Dear Angel,

You are not the only one who asks this question. I remember when I was manifesting my dream partner James, I became disappointed after 8 months of “doing my best” and my dream ice-skating love partner was nowhere to be found!

There is something important you need to know about how the law of attraction works. The Universe has the ideal timing for everything and we are not in conscious control of that timing (of when “it” will happen). I recommend that you listen to my colleague Sandy Sain in the interview I did with her on blog talk radio (see radio player on the side bar at www.lawofattractioninlove.com) when she told me how she went on 500 dates over five years before she knew herself well enough and became the person she needed to become to manifest her dream partner Bob. When I asked her whether it was worth the wait (total of eight years I believe, after her divorce), she said YES!

Since you’ve been specific in asking for your partner and have been embodying the energy of already having received and are “acting” as if this person will show up in any moment, your current job is just one thing – ENJOY your life. Yes, enjoy your life. You said you have everything thing you’ve ever wanted. WOW! Amazing! That is wonderful! So all you need to do now is to fully engage in your PRESENT life (because you have to be PRESENT to manifest something in the future). Your dream partner will come if that is your soul’s true calling!

That being said, there is one thing that my mentor and bestselling author, Keith Leon, told me about manifesting your ideal partner that you need to know about. Look at the list of qualities you have written down for your ideal mate. You need to become all those qualities (aside from the physical ones!) before you can attract them. So, for example, if you wrote down that you partner must have integrity and honesty, check in with yourself as to whether you can truly say you fully embody those qualities yourself. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like, so you must BECOME that which you wish to attract. If you want a weatlhy mate, then become wealthy yourself. If you want someone who is very kind and compassionate, practice being ever-more compassionate to people around you (including yourself) on a daily basis. Get the picture?

Most of all, just TRUST that The Universe has your best interests in mind and that your manifestation will appear when you least expect. Practice LETTING GO of your attachment to your intention, which will free up the energy around it (and thus bring it quicker to you), yet at the same time feeling passionate about what you want. Passion and attachment are not the same thing. The energy of ATTACHMENT feels needy and scarce. The energy of PASSION is a great magnet.

Enjoy your life! I believe in you!
Dr. Karen

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How to Make Your Dreams Come True Faster

Posted on 26 May 2008 by Dr. Karen

Manifesting requires ENERGY. Energy is vibration and frequency. The stronger your energy, the stronger your vibration. When you vibration is strong, you are like a huge magnet. I find that there are two ways to generate strong energies. The first way is to have a strong body. When you have a strong body, it can hold a stronger vibration for longer periods of time. Managing your energy is more important than managing your time when it comes to getting the things you intend.Are you spending your time worrying? afraid? frustrated? or are you able to let go of these unproductive ways of spending your energy and just get on with life? Not that there’s anything wrong with having feelings – its just that if you spend a lot of energy frustrated over things that don’t go your way, you are wasting your valuable energy to attract the things you want. Learn to “let go, let God”. Understand that you cannot control everything in your circumstances and instead use your energy wisely focused on your intention – your goals.

The second way to generate a strong vibration is to have a lot of passion. Even in a person with a weak or sick body, a strong focus and passion can often vibrate that person beyond the usual limits of his or her body. So be passionate and focused for what you want.

The other way top manage your energy I’d like to touch on is being “present”. What that means is having your energy circuits in “real-time” not in the past and not in the future. Being present is not easy for many of us and certainly not me. One of the ways we aren’t “present” is having emotional and belief obstacles from our past conditioning and experiences. The next two tele-workshops are focused heavily on identifying blocks and obstacles and removing them so we can get your energy in the “present”.

I will be creating new monthly Teleseminar series that you can subscribe to. Only a limited number of people will be accepted because I want to be able to answer everyone’s questions in detail in addition to the content for each teleseminar. In addition the first 50 people to subscribe will receive the Law of Attraction Tele-Workshop Series #1-6 (value $298) as a FREE download. Click here for more information.


Dr. Karen Kan

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