With Kim Olver’s new book, Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life, you’ll have a more loving and satisfying relationship. Because of my relationship with Kim, you got a sneak peak at the valuable advice in the book via the Law of Attraction in Love Radio Show on Monday January 31^st when I interviewed Kim before the official launch of her book! If you didn’t get a chance to catch it live, you can listen to or download the archives for f’ree!

Secrets of Happy Couples explains:

• Exclusive insights and suggestions gained by researching and surveying happy couples
• Practical advice from a range of experts synthesized into learnable lessons
• Tips for identifying problems and what to do about them
• A unique and novel 3-step process for surviving affairs
• The power of moving beyond “tolerating” differences to truly appreciating them
• How to meet your partner’s needs and your own at the same time

PLUS!  If you purchase TODAY you will receive more than 60 phenomenal free gifts valued at over $3,500.00! But you must purchase NOW to get your free gifts! Go to  http://www.SecretsofHappyCouples.com

I wholeheartedly recommend this book to people looking for a more satisfying relationship in their lives (and that’s not just because I was one of the “experts” interviewed for the book)!  Whether you are looking for your ultimate love relationship or hoping to improve the one you already have, Secrets of Happy Couples will provide you with a roadmap to a happy, fulfilling and satisfied relationship.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

PS This is one of the books I will be recommending from now on, to everyone, as one of their relationship “bibles”. Why? Because the information in it is FUNDAMENTAL. Kim has done a wonderful job putting this book together and it is an easy read.

Dear Dr Karen,

Thanks in advance!
Anon

Dear Anon,

Great question. Thanks for asking this as I’m sure it is on other people’s minds as well. Here’s the thing. The Universe has absolutely NO judgment good or bad on what you prefer or find attractive in a partner. The real issue is not whether you should or shouldn’t specify a particular race for your partner. The real issue is how you feel about doing so.

Apparently, you are feeling guilty and are judging yourself as being shallow. It is your self-judgment that is detrimental, not your desire or preferences. Sometimes we cannot know why we desire certain things. It may be a soul wish and you’ll never know for sure the reason. So my advice is that instead of causing yourself emotional pain by questioning your preferences, learn to lovingly accept them instead.

There is nothing wrong with finding a particular race more attractive. It doesn’t mean you are rejecting the other races per se, but instead, it is just a preference. If someone else thinks you are shallow, ignore the judgment. You are only shallow if you think you are. Reframe your judgment into a preference and drop the emotional content surrounding your preference.

It’s no big deal.

And you don’t have to justify your preferences to anyone either. It is none of their business. Your wish list doesn’t have to be publically scrutinized. The only person that has to like it is you. If you’re truly concerned, you can get a coaching session on your “laundry list” if you really want constructive feedback. I’ve helped my clients clarify their choices that sometimes were based on old habits rather than conscious choices.

Just know…there is an abundance of wonderful amazing people to choose from. Don’t worry about limiting yourself because of just this one preference. Stop being hard on yourself. Let it go.

Please comment and let me know what you think of this blog post.

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan

P.S. Remember that February is LOVE month and it is a great opportunity to not only contribute to Haiti Relief (50% of profits go to Haiti), but to make the commitment to yourself to using the Law of Attraction to manifest your greatest relationship. Get free access to the Law of Attraction in Love Teleseminar Series 2009 with any purchase.

Purchase both the Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook and Law of Attraction Home Study Course and get a FREE 30 minute private coaching session with me worth $175.

It’s taken me a few years to figure out what the main “ingredient” is that is missing from people’s ability to manifest their dreams, whether it be their dream partner or their dream career or their dream life. So many people I know try very hard to implement the teachings of The Secret, the Law of Attraction. So many people I know read spiritual books like Conversations with God, A Course in Miracles, and When Things Fall Apart. So many of my friends go to seminars and conferences and get pumped up with a “can do” attitude towards manifesting their dreams.

Yet, the fact remains that only a proportion of well-meaning and hard working people are able to manifest their deepest dreams. So what’s the “missing ingredient” that separates those that “make it” and those that don’t?

Well, read this testimonial from a client of mine and see if you can guess what it is:

My mind and heart were in all directions before I started working with Dr. Karen. My insecurity was at all time time high. It all started because I didn’t believe I could meet a man who fulfilled every single criteria I asked for as the “Love of my Life”. So when he actually appeared, I starting doubting my reality, and I indulged myself in fear. This in turn pushed him away. It wasn’t an easy time for me. I felt stupid, useless – and I was losing self-confidence rapidly.

I came across Dr. Karen’s website and contacted her. I have worked with other coaches before but at times I couldn’t resonate with them for one reason or another. However, from the first moment I spoke to Dr. Karen, things just seemed to fall into place .. we spoke as if we’d known each other for ages. I felt understood, and that set the pace for my own healing and re-alignment.

I committed to a six-session coaching package and I was also reading and implementing her eBook “Creating Your Fairytale Love Life”. By the second coaching session, I felt a big shift in my relationship with my boyfriend. By the third session, I felt an even bigger shift! Oh my, I thought. This can only get better, and it did!

Dr. Karen has taught me how to ask for what I want, how to feel pain and let it go, how to detach myself from the outcome (my biggest stumbling block) and how to feel good about myself. Once I was able to grasp this … my relationship took off and we feel so much better around each other. It’s just wonderful!!

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Light and Blessings,
Karen H.

So what is the missing ingredient that separates those that create their dreams and those that don’t?

Well, I believe the answer is this: knowing that you can’t do it alone and then seeking support.

Every highly successful and happy guru that I’ve ever studied has had a mentor or a teacher that they’ve spent one-on-one time with. In today’s language, this means a coach or a set of coaches (the more successful one is, the more coaches one tends to have) and/or a Mastermind Group (when it comes to business).

One hint when it comes to seeking support. Rather than seeking the support of your friends who you’ve been hanging out with since high school, make sure you seek the support of someone who is MORE successful than you or at least already has what you want. So if you want a happy, spiritually evolving romantic relationship, then choose someone who has just that to mentor you. If you want to be the best transformational speaker in your field, ask a successful one to mentor you.

Get the picture?

Every single person who has been courageous enough to ask for help from me has made remarkable positive shifts in their lives (from the very first coaching call)…and it isn’t necessarily because I’m all that special. It is because they made the commitment to taking the next step in wish fulfillment – getting a new perspective from someone who’s been there and who already knows how to get what you want.

A couple of generous clients have permitted me to record their calls and to share them with you so that you could witness their process and be inspired by them. By requesting information from the Coaching Page, you’ll get access to some sample coaching calls.

If you’re really, really ready to get some results in your life, take the next step – get some support!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan