Dear Dr. Karen,

Dear Ken,

Intend the type of relationship you wish to have with your fiancee. Your greatest gift to her is loving her exactly the way she is, with all the fears and insecurities she may have. She has attracted you into her life to be a mirror. You can treat her differently from all the other people who has let her down in the past. The relationship is a form of healing for both of you if you can see it that way.

Instead of wanting her to change because you think she (and you) would feel better, see if you can be inquisitive about what makes her tick. The Law of Attraction works in this way – the more unconditional the love you can have towards your fiancee, the more that kind of love will return to you. Don’t try to change her. You’re not her therapist and you shouldn’t put yourself in that role.

What would help even more is that YOU get counseling or coaching. You would set an example for her. If she sees how much happier you are when you are working on your own “stuff”, then maybe, just maybe, she’ll be inspired to delve into her own “stuff” and clear it once and for all.

Too often we are trying too hard to tell others how they can change to be happier instead of focusing on our OWN stuff. So Ken, how CAN you be happier with your fiancee without needing her to change? There is no such thing as a real stalemate. You are either growing or dying. Which is it?

Take the initiative to grow yourself. Don’t wait for her to change or even give her the sense that you wish her to change. It will be counterproductive. Instead, give her what she has never received, unconditional love AND acceptance. And may she be inspired by your example.

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan

Dear Dr. Karen

Thank you for all the information you have available for attracting my dream partner. I know I have a weakness in attracting healthy relationships and my soulmate. I was not raised in a healthy environment, nor was there any positive role models available. I’ve been working on these emotional issues, and I believe that I am making significant progress. Even though it is taking a very long time for my soulmate to manifest.

Right now I am somewhat depressed. I took approx. 7 years off from dating guys ( I was consistently attracting the same type of negative people.) I worked real hard on my self esteem, and forgiveness and loving myself, etc. However, recently I met a gentlemen with most of the qualities that I had on my list. After about a week of dating, which I really enjoyed, he was a true gentlemen etc. He abrutly told me that things are not going to work out between us. I was so devastated! After so long, I met someone I really liked and it ended that quickly. Can you shed some light if any as to where I went wrong.

Thanks. Candis

Dear Candis,

First of all, you are welcome. Secondly, you are in the perfect place to make great strides in your relationship life! Why do I say this? Because you are at least AWARE of the relationship environment you grew up in, that you didn’t have great positive role models and that you’ve been working on these issues.

Congratulations for putting the time and effort to work on yourself. It is only those people who are willing to grow themselves from where they were to where they want to be that will be truly happy and successful. That being said, you are still probably wondering why after all this work, the next gentleman you dated just abruptly dumped you! Afterall, you really liked this guy and didn’t see it coming at all did you? And you are wondering what did I do wrong?

I’m here to coach you that you are asking the wrong question. It needn’t be what did I do wrong? But instead, what does this situation give me the opportunity to grow into?

By asking what did I do wrong, you are owning up to the fact that on some level, you really do feel you are not adequate enough. Get it? In other words, the Universe was giving you a loving test. Here, let me be the Universe’s voice for a moment:

Dear One, We are giving you this opportunity for a reason. We love you. We want you to recognize how undeniably lovable you are to. And for this reason, you will experience rejection, so you will have the opportunity to feel that despite the rejection, you are still whole. You get to experience rejection and not take it personally for once. You get to experience the freedom of moving on, self-esteem intact. For this great gift, we give you this experience. Because we love you. You are perfect as you are.

So your experience with rejection was not proof that all your hard work has been a waste. Instead, your experience as an OPPORTUNITY for you to choose a higher perception that serves you..for you to experience that despite what happens on the outside world, you are at peace on in inside world. The Law of Attraction states that what you resonate on the inside is what you see on the outside.

That gentleman did you a favor. He just mirrored to you just where you are at on the self-esteem scale. It is OK. Learn from this. You are doing just fine. Keep up your study. Get a support team, a coach, a counselor. They can be helpful mirrors to you.

Once you’ve dealt with rejection to the point where it is no longer a big deal, your next breakthrough will come.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Dear Dr. Karen,

Greetings.

How do I use the law of attraction to get a Doctor as my life partner? how should be my daily affirmations be? my family is looking for proposals and I desire to marry a doctor. so pls advise me.

Shana

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Dear Shana,

Let me ask you a question before I answer you. If a man you knew only wanted to marry a blond American model with a bust size of 34C, what would you say to him? Would you judge him shallow? Unintelligent? Inflexible?

Let me ask you another question. Why do you want to marry a doctor? Because you’ve always wanted to be one and you couldn’t, so this is second best? Because you think somehow it will bring you financial security? (It doesn’t by the way..I’m a doctor and most I know are eyeballs in debt!) Because it will make your family happy and stop pestering you to get married? Or because somehow it will make you seem like a worthy person in the eyes of others?

Why am I asking you these questions? Because The Universe will NEED to know your WHY. You don’t need to tell me, but you do need to be brutally honest with yourself (and thus the Universe) as to the why. If your WHY is big enough AND resonates with your soul’s wish AND is in the highest and best interest of all, then you will manifest your dreams.

Let me present you with my guesses as to what this is all about. When I was a little girl, it was considered prestigious to marry a doctor. I suppose it still is. The belief at the time was that I would have an easy time after marriage…my husband would take care of the finances and I could just relax my way to happiness. It would make me look “lucky” if I snagged one and I would have fur coats and diamond rings like my mother always wanted for herself (but she married a teacher, so she had to buy these things herself!). I would live the life of luxury.

Well, I decided that I didn’t want to be someone’s trophy wife, so instead I became a doctor myself. And then I got to witness firsthand what the life of a doctor is like and what the family has to endure. Let’s just say that being the traditional doctor’s wife (or husband) is a thankless job. Being a wife is worse because of our societal expectations of women in general. Traditionally, the wife takes care of the finances, childcare, volunteering, cooking, cleaning and the husband who could be grumpy and tired after working 36 hours in a row. Yes, there are some material perks, but with a partner who isn’t available, how fun is that?

OK, well the modern doctor’s marriage is a little better for women here in N. America at least. There is more equality and the guys pitch in to help around the house more.

But you know what, it isn’t any easier than marrying a non-doctor. Doctor’s wives are just as happy or unhappy as anyone else and have more stressors. More is expected of them. They are “just the wife” in the eyes of others and that is a tough place to be if your spouse is the “hero” doctor and you are not.

A doctor is simply just another person. He may earn more than the average person, but he also works more than the average person – between 60-100 hours a week. If you are marrying him just for his “money”, you won’t be very happy. I can guarantee that!

Besides, the best way to marry into wealth is to become wealthy yourself. Like attracts like. That’s the law of attraction. If you don’t resonate those vibrations, you won’t be able to attract it!

So a more appropriate affirmation would be: “I am abundantly wealthy and happy, married to a man who loves and adores me”

And after all that I’ve said, if you are still wanting to marry a doctor, then your BEST chance bar none is to go to medical school and become one. Many of my doctor colleagues married each other! Why? Because if you are spending 100+ hours a week seeing no one else except colleagues and patients, who else do you date????

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Hi Dr. Kan,

Recently I read somewhere that our thoughts bring us what we seek, but it is only through action that we receive it.

Over the past few weeks I have made my soulmate list and meditations. And now the Universe has brought someone in my life that I can see as a potential life partner. So, in this case what action would I have to take?

Thanks, Ali

Dear Ali,

You’ve asked a really interesting question Ali and that is why I’m addressing it in my blog. One of the “criticism” of the movie, The Secret, is that many who watched it erroneously thought that if they just did the “wishing” part, that what they wanted would just magically fall into their lap.

Now, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t true some of the time, but the nuances of manifesting could not be included in such a short movie. Basically, I’m here to teach you that the BIGGER the outcome you wish for (in your perception), the  BIGGER the ACTION you will likely need to take in order to receive it.

For example, if you are wishing to manifest a cup of coffee from someone, it probably isn’t going to take a lot action to get it, because a cup of coffee is “not a big deal” to most people. On the other hand, manifesting a dream love partner IS a big deal to most people and in their perception, is challenging, difficult or rare. Thus bigger action is required often to fully manifest the dream. And big action often means stretching your comfort zone or your belief structure.

Congrats to you for taking the time to make your soulmate list and for committing to your meditations (for manifesting)! That is already an ACTION that many people don’t even know to take! These are the first two steps to manifesting your ideal love partner from my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life. If you haven’t picked up a copy, I’d highly recommend it because the later chapters deal with obstacles and how to overcome them.

There are many actions you can take now that you made your list and have done your embodying (meditations). The next step is “acting as if” your soulmate has or will arrive shortly. How will you make space in your life for this person? Have you become all those qualities yourself that you have on that soulmate list? If not, you’d better get cracking!

On a practical level, since you have attracted a prospect that might meet your specifications, your next action step is to see if the glove fits. Get to know this person without attachment to the outcome that he/she is THE one you are looking for.

Have the curiousity to discover who he/she REALLY is, not who you want them to be. I’ve made myself miserable in the past by jumping the gun and being blind to the fact that the person I attracted WASN’T my ideal partner.

Keep in mind that sometimes that even though our soulmates will sense a connection right away, sometimes one of you has some personal growth work to do before you are ready for each other. Check out the Law of Attraction in Love Radio show I did with Keith Leon (especially the first one) on this subject!

Lastly, just take the logical NEXT STEP. You don’t have to know three steps ahead. You don’t have to know if you will be right or wrong. The more attached you are to being “correct” the less you will enjoy the mystery and wondrousness of life. So the next logical step in your case is to get to know the other person better. It’s that simple.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Dear Dr. Karen,

Have you heard of the No Contact Rule when it comes to break ups? Do you think that really works? My boyfriend broke up with me on Christmas Day because he thinks I lied to him and told me to never speak to him again. I didn’t do what he said. We’ve had no contact since the Tuesday before Christmas. I’ve been trying to let go but still anguishing waiting for him to contact me at least by phone stating he needs to talk to me. Do you believe in the No Contact rule?

Donna

Dear Donna,

Great question Donna. I can imagine the anguish you must feel when you feel you’ve done nothing wrong and you can’t explain yourself to your boyfriend. Frustrating I would imagine.

It neither believe or dis-believe in the “no contact” rule. It has nothing to do with belief.

Your boyfriend had a very serious reaction to whatever he thought you did. It probably touched his “core wound” and the pain was so great that he did whatever he felt was best to shield himself from further wounding. The fact that you didn’t mean to do any harm is besides the point. It is his perception that he is relying on. That’s all he has. And his perceptions are based in his “relationship blueprint” from childhood.

If his actions seem unreasonable to you, it is further evidence of this “wounding” I’m talking about. He is not consciously aware of this wounding so his actions will seem perfectly “logical” to him. For example, if he witnessed his father “lying” to his mother and how upset she was when he was a young boy, he will react violently to anything remotely similar in his adult life. See if you can feel a little bit of understanding and compassion now that you know this.

The one action you can take is to respect his space and his request for non-contact. I know this sounds very difficult, but trust me, if you push for contact, you will lose his trust further. I had an old boyfriend who didn’t respect my wish for non-contact and insisted on leaving messages on my voicemail. I lost trust because he didn’t respect my wish for space. The message I got was,

“You SHOULDN’T need space. I know better than you do what you need. My needs are more important than yours. You’re opinions and wishes are unimportant and wrong.”

Of course, that is not what he meant. But by calling me when I told him NOT to showed me that he cared more about what he needed than what I needed.

So, your best move is to wait and heal. There is one law of attraction exercise you can do to mend things quickly. I can’t promise you WHEN it will happen, only that it WILL. Your willingness and diligence in doing this exercise authentically will show up in your results.

Here’s the exercise. Because he has asked for non-contact, you are not permitted to call, email, snail mail your ex unless he explicitedly allows it. I suppose if he told you not to call him, you could use a loop hole and write him a letter. But only you know what he TRULY meant. Likely, he meant NO contact whatsoever, so don’t manipulate the situation just because you can.

Everything is Energy. You can still communicate to him…even one-sided. Here’s what you do: every day for at least 30 days straight, write your ex a virtual letter. In this letter, you will do your best to communicate your love, respect and understanding to your ex. You’ll tell him exactly what you love about him and why you miss him. You can even explain what “happened” as if he were standing there listening to you. You can ask for forgiveness from him.

You can be as creative as you want to be. It is important that the Energy of the letter be one of love and understanding, not one of neediness or accusations.

You see, since everything is energy, even if you don’t literally send the letter to your ex, he will RECEIVE it energetically. Yes! He will actually receive the messages you write in vibrational form. He will not know you are communicating to him consciously, but unconsciously the messages will enter his energy field. His unconscious will filter and let in whatever messages most resonate.

If YOU feel the love when you write the letter, he will FEEL it too. That’s the beauty of this exercise. I can’t tell you how many times this simple exercise has created peace where there was conflict. Are you willing to take this action? Is your relationship important enough to do it?

This is my challenge to you. Let me know after 30 days how things are going for you.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Relationship Expert, Marcia Martin

Join us Monday April 27th at 12 noon EDT (www.timezoneconverter.com) for Law of Attraction in Love Radio!  The call-in number is 347-945-6313.

This week’s guest is relationship expert, Marcia Martin who I absolutely LOVED when I listened to her at All Your Relations Intensive in November hosted by Peak Potentials Training.

Marcia revealed some things I certainly was never taught about a man-woman relationship and I remember writing furiously in my notebook all the “gems” she had to share! Since then, James and I have been using them (at least I have consciously) and they work!! Really, really well! So you are in for a treat!

Ms. Martin was one of the original founders and the Senior Vice President of est (Erhard Seminars Training, now The Landmark Forum), the largest self-improvement educational company in the world, and is one of the Founding Members and Board Member Emeritus of The Transformational Leadership Council. She is considered to be a pioneer of the Human Potential Movement, and has been a trainer, thought leader, and coach in the personal development industry for over 30 years.

She has trained over 150,000 individuals worldwide, specializing in teaching transformational communication and leadership. An expert on the Law of Attraction, Marcia was instrumental in organizing many of the interviews for the film phenomenon, The Secret. Since 1980 she has also been the CEO of Marcia Martin Productions, an international consulting and training firm, and as it’s primary facilitator, personally leads Transformational Training Programs In public speaking, leadership development, time management, communication skills, relationship skills, and spiritual fulfillment.

Marcia has most recently created a transformational media company,
Wombat Network (World One Media for Breakthrough And Transformation), which utilizes the most leading edge digital technology to create media platforms for transformational thought leaders, producing life-altering, world-changing media, films, and programming for the world.

Please join us Monday! If you can’t, at least you can listen to the archive of the show.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Dear Dr. Karen,

I want to know how make my husband less interested in other women.  He chats on the net all the time and I found out that he has been telephone calls with two women but I am sure he hasn’t cheated on me yet.  This knowledge is hurting me – the thought that he doesn’t love me or find me as attractive as before. He didn’t think of anyone else before. Please tell me what to do, but don’t tell me to tell him since he will know that I am spying on him again, and he will get away from me more. How do I use the law of attraction in my case? I have a 5 year old daughter that he loves very much. He loves me I know but may be not like before.  I don’t know what to do. Please help me.

Talin

Dear Talin,

It sounds like your husband has caught you spying on him before. He probably feels you don’t trust him. If you don’t trust him, why should he be trustworthy? You do not have the power to control your husband and that is what you are wanting to do. You cannot make him less interested in other women. What you CAN do is work to become more interested in HIM and more INTERESTING to him. No guarantees of course!

He may be attracted to other women because they are perceived as being interested in him. All of us are naturally attracted to others who see us as beautiful and wonderful. It can even be intoxicating to have admirers.

If you’ve chosen not to tell the truth about your spying, you have a couple of choices. You can continue living in deceit by continuing to purposefully spy on your husband or you can come clean and start on a new page. If you decide to continue spying on him, it is unlikely that your energy will shift to the degree that will be attractive to him. Even if he doesn’t know you are spying on him, his energetic body can sense the mistrust coming form your energetic body and he will become less and less attracted to you.

If you either share with him what you are doing and let him know that you are sorry and that you did it because you were terrified of losing his love, he may understand and forgive you. It is up to him. Stop spying on him and work on creating a more emotionally intimate relationship with your husband.

Good relationships are based on truth. Both of you have developed habits that create distance as opposed to intimacy. At least you have control over your actions. By trying to control him, you are pushing him away. I’m not saying you should do nothing because that clearly is not helpful either.

What you really need to do is address and share with your partner your underlying fear of losing him. Share with him that you are afraid that he is finding you less attractive and may be more interested in other women. Share with him that you are afraid he will leave you and your child. Don’t expect him to be truthful necessarily, but at least you can stop holding secrets that will undermine your relationship. Ask him what you can do to be more attractive to him. Listen carefully. See if anything he says resonates with you.

I can tell you a couple of ways you can start treating your husband so that he is more attracted to you:

1. View him as your hero and tell him so. When my partner James does something that I won’t or can’t do – like move a bunch of logs or climb up onto the roof and scrape snow off it – I give him lots of hugs and kisses and appreciation and tell him he’s my hero. He feels very good and masculine and it is very fun.

2. Every day for the next 30 days, tell him what you appreciate about him at least once a day, preferably more. AND

3. Refrain from criticizing him. Instead if something is bothering you, share how it makes you feel rather than criticizing.

Example: “John, how many times do I have to ask you to take out the garbage? Can’t you remember anything?!!”

versus

“Gee John, I’m noticing myself feeling frustrated that the garbage is still here after you agreed to take it out. I really don’t like feeling this way and I don’t want to feel angry at you. I’m not really sure what to say or do about the situation. Do you have some suggestions?”

Granted the latter requires some practice to master. Believe me, I’m still working on it…I have to THINK carefully before I open my mouth sometimes! But you know, it is really worth it!

You will see results in less than a week. Mostly it occurs in less than 24 hours if you are genuinely trying.

I sense there are some major relationship blueprint issues that have caused you to co-create this uncomfortable situation. I would highly recommend you get some personalized one-on-one coaching or counseling. This is not a quick fix. But I hope my suggestions have been helpful to you.

In summary: the best way to change the situation is to change yourself (your behavior)

Warmly,

Dr. Karen Kan

Dear Dr. Karen,

Thank you for all your newsletters and for teaching me about the law of attraction. My question is: how can I, as an African woman, apply this law of attraction to my life?

Israa

Dear Israa,

The wonderful thing about the law of attraction is that it is like the law of gravity: it shows no favorites! It doesn’t matter whether you are African or Asian or Hispanic – anyone can practice harnessing the law of attraction to magnetize more of what they want into their life.

The interesting thing about your question is that it feels like you have a preconceived idea that harnessing the law of attraction would be more difficult given your ancestry. Is that true? Be honest.

If it is true, you have then been given a gift! Why? Because you have now identified a LIMITING BELIEF that you have that may be blocking you from manifesting what you want. It is similar to someone who thinks they are too fat, too old, too young, or too ugly to be able to manifest their soulmate or dream partner using the law of attraction.

Whatever you believe, you will conceive. In other words, if you believe that being African makes it harder for you to attract your perfect mate, then you will co-create THAT reality in your life. If you believe it will be harder, it WILL be harder.

My ex-husband had a long-held believe that the type of person he wanted as his new partner didn’t exist. He wanted an Asian “mountain” woman. In other words, he wanted to be with another Asian woman who was feminine and attractive but was at the same time “tough” and willing to “rough it” in the woods even it it meant no running water or a toilet. (Guess what, I was DEFINITELY not a mountain woman. I tried for years but made myself miserable and sick trying. I’ve gone back to who I really am: A Princess! Ha ha)

When I confronted my ex-husband about his beliefs, as did some of his best friends, he conceded to let go of his non-supportive belief that his ideal woman didn’t exist. Within a month or so, he met a beautiful Asian woman online that met all his criteria!

So my suggestion to you is to let go of the belief that your race has anything to do with how well you can manifest your dream partner. You are a valuable loving human being. That is enough.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Hi Dr. Karen, Thanks for allowing yourself to be an instrument to help others. My question is this I’m in love with a man that simply doesn’t love me. It’s taken me a long time to accept this. Finally I’ve reach the place where I have accepted it. Yet it’s extremely painful. My question is how do I now move on to the next step of being open to this place of pain.  Do I just remain in pain until it stops?

Thanks,  Hurting in VA

Dear Hurting in VA:

Unreciprocated love can indeed be painful for us. At times, it just doesn’t seem fair, does it? But who says things are supposed to be fair anyway.

I give you a lot of credit for understanding that it is important to accept that he doesn’t love you back. Even more important though, is the question: Do you feel you are lovable? Just because he didn’t love you only means that he wasn’t your ideal match and that the Universe was making sure you were getting pretty clear signs that that was the case!

In order to attract your ideal partner, one that reciprocates your love, you must believe and FEEL you are completely lovable. Not everyone in the world needs to love you, of course, but YOU must love you. It may even be a bit humorous and healing to imagine that anyone (including this man) would be absolutely CRAZY not to love you! You ARE so wonderful afterall!!

Are you smiling yet? Even just a bit?

As far as your question about remaining in pain, let me assure you that the pain is temporary. However, there are ways in which we keep the pain going for longer than necessary. One of these ways is resisting being in pain. The more we resist, the more it persists.

Why do we resist? Well, because it doesn’t feel good does it? So try this on for size. Instead of resisting the pain because you don’t know when it will end and you are afraid to feel it fully, set aside a designated period of time for you to totally immerse yourself in pain. Allow yourself to fully say all those things that keep you in pain, not because I necessarily want you to believe them, but because I want you to consciously work with your pain not resist it. Set the timer for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes or however long you wish to FEEL. During that time, you allow yourself to be fully immersed in your feeling without distraction. Do not resist the tears, the anger, the frustration, the fear. Just let it all out. Beat on a pillow if you have to. Just know that you have a designated time you are permitting yourself to feel.

Once your time is up, it’s up. Switch gears. If you notice residual things coming up, just set them aside for your next “session”. Go on about your business in the NOW. If your mind wanders to self-defeating thoughts, learn to switch gears. You may have to switch thoughts over and over again, but that’s OK. It is a practice..like yoga or meditation.

What you’ll find over time, is that by giving yourself permission to fully feel whatever it is you feel, you release the resistance around it and it will eventually dissapate much quicker. Don’t be attached to getting rid of the pain quickly. Pain is a great teacher if you allow yourself to see its wisdom.

When you have allowed yourself to experiment with feeling the pain fully, it is possible that you cannot hold that level of vibration for very long before your body wishes to naturally switch gears. Be compassionate with yourself. Forcing yourself NOT to feel pain is adding to the pain. Just because you may have been taught that in order to use the law of attraction to manifest what you want, you must be positive, it doesn’t mean that you are supposed to be in a good mood all the time. In fact, resisting so-called negative emotions is counterproductive when you are consciously harnessing the law of attraction.

The Universe can sense when you are in resistance and it will give you more things to resist!

You may wish to try EFT (emotional freedom technique) or the Sedona Method or check out Byron Katie’s work to help move your emotions to a higher vibration.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

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* “Happiness Meditation” with Spring Forest Qigong Master Chunyi Lin

and to make you still more happy…

* Over 150 top authors and thought leaders, including Jack Canfield, John Gray, Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra, will give you recordings that support you having a wonderful, happiness-filled life of abundance and peace. (These alone are valued at more than $3000!)

Through these additional resources, you will understand how to be happier from so many perspectives that it would be nearly impossible for you not to radically improve your life by raising your baseline for happiness.

Order your book right now by going to:

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Happiness is “The Secret”

to the Law of Attraction

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Rhonda Byrne, creator of “The Secret” wrote…

“I want to let you in on a secret to ‘The Secret.’ The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life.”

You may have seen Marci Shimoff in “The Secret” movie. Marci is an undisputed expert on the Law of Attraction.

Like Rhonda, she knows that Happiness is a powerful attractor. She knows — and she teaches you in the book and on the free recordings — that happiness helps draw to you whatever you want.

That’s how she became a #1 New York Times best-selling author, even before the paperback was released. People have purchased more than 13 million copies of her books. That is extraordinary considering that most books never sell more than 2500 copies. She is a mega successful author who knows that happiness is the secret to life.

And she knows how to help anyone — YOU! — quickly become happier, and remain happy for the rest of your life. And that’s what you get in her book and in the special bonus recordings that you will receive right now when you order her book.

Why was Marci on NBC’s “The Today Show?” Why did PBS produce a special on happiness with Marci as the host? Because as one magazine declared, “Happiness is the newest fashion.” People are finally figuring out – with the help of the lousy economy — that it isn’t the new flat screen TV, or the iPhone, or the new wardrobe that makes you happy.

It’s the old chicken/egg thing. And happiness definitely comes first. Marci figured out how you can have happiness bubble up naturally from within, which is why the national media is clamoring to get her attention. She discovered that everything you need to be happier is inside – you just the simple instructions to uncover it. And, you should, because…

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Unhappiness shortens your life

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Research shows that unhappy people:

* Have a greater risk of heart disease, strokes, hypertension, infections, and Type 2 diabetes

* Release more of the stress hormone cortisol. They have a higher heart rate and may be at higher risk for heart attacks

* Are 65% more likely to get a cold

* Are less likely to find a spouse

* Live nine years fewer than their happy counterparts

So… when you are happy, you are likely to live longer. You are more emotionally and physically healthy, creative, energetic, compassionate, and successful!

…..In Marci’s book you will

…..take a test of 20 questions

…..to determine your level of happiness

You’ll then be given a practical 7-step strategy to increase your level of happiness and decrease the risks.

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Beware of this advice:

* * *

“Find the things that make you happy and do more of those.”

That sounds good, but it’s a trap!

Your life would quickly fall out of balance if your happiness depended on your 401K, your home, your job, your health, your relationships…

You want to automatically generate happiness all of the time NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES. You don’t want to rely on anything else for your happiness. Not achievements, goals, money, relationships, a new car, fancy clothes, other people, or anything else “out there.”

You learn how in Marci’s book. It’s beautiful, simple, and practical, and written for today’s times.

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How to beat your genetics

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Believe it or not, happiness is 50% genetics. That’s why some people are just happy-go-lucky with everything turning up roses. That’s also why some people just seem to be rich automatically, without trying, even with the stock market at all time lows.

But that’s not the whole story. 50% of your happiness level is NOT genetics. The other 50% can be controlled by you! In the same way that you can crank the thermostat to warm up on chilly days, you can reprogram your happiness “set-point” to a higher level of peace and well-being.

This happiness set-point is the level of happiness that you maintain most of your life. If you are unhappy now, you will likely be unhappy 10 years from now… unless you do something to change it.

In her book Marci gives you a 7-step practical program to raise your happiness set-point quickly, easily, and effectively… so that you will be happier and happier in all areas of your life.

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The Happy 100

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Marci interviewed 100 unconditionally happy people. She combined the interviews with cutting-edge research and knowledge from the world’s leading experts in the fields of positive psychology and neurophysiology.

From that she developed the powerful, proven 7-step program that you can incorporate into your life to be happier right now — no matter where you start, no matter what’s going on in your life.

You’ll discover profound first-person stories of people who’ve applied these steps to their own lives to become Happy for No Reason.

You’ll read phenomenal tales from a former drug-dealer turned minister, a hit film-maker, a political refugee, and a famous actress who escaped a “family curse,” as well as stories from doctors, nurses, mothers, teachers and business executives.

You’ll learn practical, down-to-earth strategies based on the new science of happiness that will help you experience happiness “from the inside out.”

You don’t have to have happy genes, win the lottery, lose 20 pounds, or become a saint. By the time you finish reading Marci’s book, you will know how to experience an authentic state of sustained happiness for the rest of your life.

Add the bonus recordings and you have an unbelievable course in happiness that will put you on a course of miracles in your life. For less than $15!

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Are you ready to be happier?

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I know that if you have read to the end of this letter you are quite likely to buy Marci’s book and receive the bonus resources and gifts. I shudder to think about the unfortunate few who will just go on with their day and not order the book now.

I am absolutely convinced of the power within this book. I hope my passion, sincerity, and conviction comes through in this letter. I hope you grab this opportunity to add so many riches in your life — for so few dollars right now.

Take that step, and order your own personal copy of Marci Shimoff’s “Happy for No Reason.” Get a copy for your best friend, your co-worker, and your favorite sibling. And come back within 14 days to claim your bonus recordings.

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Be sure to thank whoever may have forwarded this email to you. And do write Marci and me about your experiences with “Happy for No Reason.”

To Your Personal Happiness,

Pete Bissonette

President of Learning Strategies

Eager student of Marci Shimoff

Great fan of the treasure of “Happy for No Reason”

P.S. – Here are reviews from 21 people you may recognize:

1)

“With Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has hit a home run. This book presents a definitive, broad-based approach to becoming truly happy that combines great spiritual depth, top-notch research, and psychological practicality. I’m certain that if you follow the practices in her dazzling new book, you too will manifest a lifetime of happiness.”

– From the foreword by Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles and co-creator of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series

2)

“You can’t depend on external circumstances for lasting happiness. It has to come from inside you. Based on scientific research and the experiences of truly happy people, Happy for No Reason shows you step-by-step how to raise your happiness set-point.”

– Mehmet C. Oz MD, coauthor of You: on a Diet and You: Staying Young

3)

“Marci Shimoff is one of the most compelling people I’ve ever known. I’m happy she’s shared her wisdom with all of us in Happy for No Reason.”

– Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love

4)

“Happy for No Reason offers seven clear, powerful and effective steps you can practice to be happier right now!”

– John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

5)

“This book is a wonderful collection of techniques and examples, shared by people who have had one of the most important realizations I think we can have — that we already have within us the ability to live in a state of Happy for No Reason.”

– Lindsay Wagner, “The Bionic Woman,” Emmy Award-winning actress

6)

“Tremendous! Marci Shimoff has produced a book that is practical, inspiring, and accessible. Happy for No Reason gives readers powerful ways to become happier in all dimensions of life: body, mind, heart, soul, personal power, purpose, and relationships. It’s seven books holistically rolled into one.”
– Stephen M. R. Covey, bestselling Author of The Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything

7)

“I love this practical approach to true happiness. The real-life stories of people who are Happy for No Reason are extraordinarily moving and inspiring — just reading this book made me happier!”

– Olivia Hussey, Golden Globe Award-winning Actress

“If you want to be happy (and who doesn’t?) Marci Shimoff has — amazingly — “cracked the code” for doing so. This isn’t the latest pop-psychology craze. Instead, it’s based on the latest scientific research about real and lasting happiness. What if you (or your loved ones) really could be happy, regardless, of circumstances? Happy for No Reason shows you how–and it’s easier than you think. This remarkable book is sure to change a lot of lives, including yours.”

– Bill Harris, Director of Centerpointe Research Institute

9)

“Happy for No Reason offers an engaging, wise and profound look at happiness that can change your life. Marci Shimoff has creatively crafted a purposeful guide to assist us in experiencing the gift of happiness.”

– Chaka Khan, Grammy Award-winning Singer & Songwriter, Author, and Philanthropist

10)

“Rule #1 for happiness: READ THIS BOOK! Be happy for no reason, because everything else comes from that. If you want health, wealth and wisdom, follow the Happiness Habits presented in these pages and transform your life.”

– Phil Town, #1 New York Times bestselling Author of Rule #1, Host of CNBC show, Rebel Investor

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11)

“In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff shares a new paradigm of happiness, rooted in ancient wisdom, yet validated by cutting-edge research in the fields of both neuroscience and positive psychology. I was enthralled the whole way through.”
– Candace B. Pert, PhD, Scientific Director RAPID Pharmaceuticals, featured in the film What the Bleep Do We Know!? and Author of Everything You Need to Know to Feel Go(o)d

12)

“Happy for No Reason is the most important book about happiness you’ll ever read! A completely unique and life-changing approach to being happy no matter what.”

– Raymond Aaron, Canada’s #1 Business and Investment Coach

13)

“Marci Shimoff has opened a new era of inner peace for humanity with her brilliant work. The search for happiness now starts and ends inside us as we raise our happiness set-point using her insightful guidance. As an educator, I’m most impressed at how Marci presents a complex topic in an easy-to-read and easy-to-share book. I recommend it happily!”

– Paul R. Scheele, Co-founder, Learning Strategies Corporation, Author, Natural Brilliance and PhotoReading

14)

“Happy for No Reason is a wonderful guide for how to be happier as individuals, and how to share that happiness with our families, our communities and our world. Everyone will benefit from the wisdom and coaching that this valuable book offers.”

– Dr. Bill and Kathy Magee, CEO and President, Co-founders of Operation Smile

15)

“Happy for No Reason offers a practical and hopeful solution to fear, depression, anxiety, and stress. Here’s the secret: Each of us has the ability to focus on joy and happiness –regardless of what is going on in the world. And therein lies our power… and ability to be healthy and happy. This book is a winner.”

– Christiane Northrup, M.D., Author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause

16)

“Wonderful! This book provides a program that will bring you powerful results. Finding lasting happiness has never been as clear and easy.”

– Bobbi DePorter, Co-founder and President, Quantum Learning Network/SuperCamp.

17)

“Happy for No Reason not only reports on the lofty science of happiness, but the authors also wisely remember to include stories from the lives of everyday people.”

– Robert Biswas-Diener, Program Director for Education and Learning, Center for Applied Positive Psychology (UK)

18)

“Wealth and Success are meaningless without happiness! Happy for No Reason shows you how to be happy wherever you are in life.”

– Dr. Ivan Misner, Chairman and Founder of BNI (Business Networks International)

19)

“Happy for No Reason is THE premier book for any person wanting to experience more happiness. Keep it by your bedstand! It’s an important book to show you how you can be happy every day.”

– Jill Lublin, International Speaker and bestselling Author of Guerrilla Publicity, Networking Magic and Get Noticed

20)

“This book will change the way you think about happiness. In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has plenty of reasons to share this wisdom. If you want more joy, peace and well-being in life, this book is for you.”

–Yakov Smirnoff, MAPP (Master of Applied Positive Psychology) and Comedian

21)

“If you are looking for a book to profoundly and positively uplift your life in the most glorious of ways, you will find it in Happy for No Reason. It’s captivating, eye-opening, and life-changing.”

Peggy McColl, New York Times bestselling Author of Your Destiny Switch

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P.P.S. – Truth is emerging: Being happy IS how to have it all. It used to be that if we couldn’t have it all, we would at least want happiness. We now know that if you have happiness, everything else can flow to you. Order Marci’s new book today, and then claim the special bonuses and resources.

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I hope you learned as much as I did in this letter! Go out and get your copy of Happy for No Reason. I’ve got an autographed copy and I cherish it!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan