I was on a coaching call with one of my new clients last week. She had recently come to the realization that she never felt deserving of a happy love life – that she never really felt good enough. I understand where she was coming from because that has been my issue since childhood. I struggle with that all the time, but the good news is that with the personal growth work I’m doing, the “not good enough” story is loosening its grip on me.
And for this new client, she told me that after reading the first couple of chapters of my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life – Harness the law of attraction to manifest your dream partner, she realized that all these years of being in unhappy relationships, her STORY had been that all the good men were already taken. Thus she kept manifesting relationships with unavailable (married) men!
She now understands that she could either stick to her story and NOT get what she wants (a happy relationship with a wonderful man) or change her story in order to manifest her dream partner. I give her a lot of credit for admitting her non-supportive story and choosing a supportive one instead – “there are plenty of wonderful AVAILABLE men out there to choose from!”
So what’s your story been? i.e. the story that you’ve been telling yourself that has prevented you from manifesting your dream partner. Is it someone else’s fault? Do you believe you aren’t good enough or deserving enough? Are all the good one’s taken? Whatever your story is, it’s gotten you this far. If you haven’t arrived at creating your dream partner, maybe you ought to consider changing your story because it may not be serving you.
Shifting from victimhood to empowerment in our lives is a necessary step in manifesting what you want in your life. You have so much power. Harness the law of attraction by choosing those beliefs that serve you and letting go of the ones that do not. Your life will never be the same!
Dr. Karen Kan