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Dear Dr. Karen: How Do I Manifest My Crush’s Attention?

Posted on 15 June 2008 by Dr. Karen

“Dear Dr. Karen, I’m just wondering – I currently have a crush on someone and want to know how to attract him? Sometimes I do get negative when I fail to get a response from him. These last few days he hasn’t been online and I’m starting to notice my own negative thinking when this happens (because he was online everyday prior to this). I know this is wrong and  I try to think positive, but how do I work to attract him?” Sultan

Dear Sultan,

A couple of things I would like to clarify for you to make your life easier:

1. Negative thoughts are not “bad”, they are part of human existence. It is impossible to banish all negative thoughts and although you may have heard from teachings of the Law of Attraction to focus on positive thoughts, don’t beat yourself up for having negative thoughts. It is when you beat yourself up for having negative thoughts that you GIVE THEM MORE POWER!

Instead, when you have negative thoughts, just notice them and let them pass without judgment. This isn’t easy at first, but after a while, you can even make a game of it. If you notice a negative thought, you can say to your mind, “thank you for sharing, cancel/pass” and then automatically train yourself to think of something else, something positive or supportive, or distract yourself altogether.

2. Thinking “positive” and creating a relationship using the law of attraction can be very different things. Please read my blog entry on “the law of attraction is NOT positive thinking”. So when you are attempting to create a relationship with this man you have a crush on, what exactly are you wanting in a relationship? You need to send a clear message to the Universe what you want, not who you want. There is a difference. If you ask the Universe to give you someone who gives you lots of loving affection, who is humorous and energetic, the Universe will find that person for you. But if you have a preconceived idea of what your “crush” is like in a relationship and he doesn’t fit into your deepest wants and desires (as the Universe would already know this), the Universe will not comply with your conscious wish attract this particular man. Know what I mean?

The man you have a crush on may or may not be a suitable partner for you. And maybe he’d be suitable for a short time only so you can learn a lesson. Personally, I believe in being honest and straightforward. I’m not a fan of mind-games. In other words, ask this man if he’d be interested in dating you. Tell him why you like him and that you are interested in him, and see what he has to say. If he disappears off the face of the earth and you never hear from him again, you have your answer from the Universe – “he’s not the best one for you right now”, and you will have cleared valuable space for a better relationship to come along.

On the other hand, he might be really happy about it, and you’ve saved yourself a lot of wasted time guessing how he feels. The best relationships I’ve ever witnessed and have been in were relationships where there was no guessing. Each individual in the relationship was honest and upfront and willing to be vulnerable (in their honesty).

In my humble opinion, life is too short to dance around the issue. Ask for what you want. If what you think you want doesn’t match with your unconscious spiritual desires, you’ll know very quickly! The Universe is there to support you in every way with miracles.

3. Manifesting laws can be summarized like this: your thoughts lead to your feelings, which lead to your actions, which leads to your results. If you are too scared to be upfront with this man about your attraction to him, what does that say about your thoughts? The Universe will help you but you will have to take action, which means having courage to undergo whatever happens after you take action. Just believing that whatever happens is for your own highest good is a wonderful way to live a happy peaceful life!

Let us know what happens after you take action.


Dr. Karen Kan

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