Does stress regularly impact your quality of life?

Although many would say that stress is the “new normal” way of living, it should be taken very seriously.

According to the American Psychological Association’s (APA) 2010 Stress in America survey there is cause for alarm about the long-term impact that chronic stress could have on our physical and emotional health and the health of our families. The survey revealed that people tend to “manage stress in unhealthy ways, while lack of willpower and time constraints impedes their ability to make lifestyle or behavioral changes.”

In North America alone, millions of women and men experience “frazzled” stress-like symptoms due to juggling too many roles within family, work and community. For the most part, the frazzled woman is excited by her life, yet there never seems to be enough time to do everything.

Does this sound like you or a woman you know and care about?

Being worn out and rushed isn’t living; it’s merely surviving.

Not that long ago, Rosalie Moscoe found herself caught in this vicious cycle – burdened by too many responsibilities – she felt guilty, depressed, alone and trapped. As a successful children’s music performer, she travelled a lot and struggled to manage work and family responsibilities. Rosalie’s hurried lifestyle came with a price – she spent years with throat infections, back problems and other ailments. Finally, Rosalie made the conscious decision to take charge of her life and learned ways to relax, improve her diet and lifestyle. Most importantly, she began to understand how to alter her attitude and perception of stressful events.

Today, Rosalie shares with you all of her best life-changing tips, health information and stress-busting tools that she has learned not only from personal experience but also from her years as a teacher, professional speaker on stress relief, and Registered Nutritional Consulting Practitioner, (Holistic Nutritionist). You will find answers to your stress dilemmas in her new book, Frazzled Hurried Women! Your Stress Relief Guide to Thriving…Not Merely Surviving.  www.frazzledhurriedwoman.com

High levels of stress put you at risk for developing chronic illnesses such as heart disease, diabetes and depression. You can’t afford to put your well-being “on hold” for any longer!

If you know my history at all, you’ll know that I totally BURNT myself out stressing about my husband, my job and my home about a decade ago…and I’m still physically healing from that trauma. I don’t want anyone to have to suffer through REAL burnout like I did…it is painful!

Transform from surviving to thriving…

Say “NO” to Stress and Go From Frazzled to Fantastic! 

Living in the hurried lane? This comprehensive stress-relief guide is packed full of solid, easy-to-follow solutions for the overworked modern woman (and man!)

As an added bonus within this enlightened mix of the latest medical findings and the wisdom of the ages, you will discover uncommon nutritional information for improved mental and physical health. This is your ultimate guide for restoring mind, body and spirit. Highlights include:

• Alter your perceptions and response to stress
• Discover easy ways to relax
• Energize with superb nutritional advice
• Enhance relationships at home and work
• Face and conquer over-commitment
• Improve sleep patterns, physical activity
• Streamline your time and pace of life
• Natural Stress Remedies

“Rosalie Moscoe’s Frazzled Hurried Woman! is a must-read for anyone feeling overcommitted, overextended and overwhelmed and for the people who love them. This wise, delightful and sensitive book clearly defines the problems and provides creative solutions and great tips: fear and anger exercises, breathing techniques, ways to self-soothe, identifying personal needs and wants, how we can choose to use our energy. Rosalie’s warm and charming writing style is so very enjoyable as are the wonderful illustrations. Best of all, this book offers CHOICES. What a gift that is when it feels like there’s no way out.” ?Elayne Savage, PhD, speaker, Psychotherapist

Learn how to positively manage stress by purchasing your copy TODAY and receive an amazing wellness gift bundle from Rosalie and her colleagues. 

For more information see: www.frazzledhurriedwoman.com

YOU are the engine that runs your life. A healthy balance is all about managing energy.

How does one achieve the elusive healthy balance? Frazzled Hurried Woman! offers a wealth of practical, well-researched advice for not only detecting the “Five Early Danger Signals” of stress, but how to recognize your perception of it, which is the key to managing it. Chapters include crucial information on: attitude, nutritional boosts, sleep, relaxation and acquiring calmness, relationship enhancement and physical fitness. This exceptional stress relief guide offers real solutions to maximizing your potential for emotional, physical and nutritional stamina as well as stress management at work. Rosalie offers hope and help through clear, concrete solutions to make the journey back to harmonious living.

Order now and take charge of your health and well-being today (and enjoy the bonus gifts, too!)

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“Rosalie does it again! This book is wonderful. Every chapter is packed with practical, easy to follow advice for the (overworked) modern woman. Changing your life is hard. Rosalie almost makes it easy, by explaining why change is necessary, and providing numerous simple examples for places to start, and offering sound medical explanations. Rosalie pulls no punches. The stories she tells from her private life are courageous and inspiring. I’d love to send this book to all my patients.” ?Dr. Michael Zitney, MD, DAAPM, Chronic Pain Specialist

To your health and wellness,

Dr. Karen Kan

About the Author: ROSALIE MOSCOE, Registered Nutritional Consultant Practitioner, is an established author and former teacher of college-level courses in stress management. A favorite international speaker for corporations, associations, government, education and hospitals, she avidly promotes stress relief and boosted nutrition for optimum well-being. As a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, she also provides one-to-one nutritional consulting. Featured in numerous publications for her work on the frazzled lifestyle, Rosalie’s knowledge, caring and experience make her the perfect mentor for your journey back to harmonious living. She was nominated for 2 Juno Awards (Canadian Music Awards) for her inspirational children’s music CDs. Rosalie often uses humor and dramatic techniques or appropriate songs in her presentations. Participants walk away touched and transformed. Truly, her appeal spans all generations. www.frazzledhurriedwoman.com

I’m writing to let you know about powerful free teleseminar for men this Thursday, July 28th.

It’s called Release Your Limiting Beliefs about “Being a Man” to Become Authentically Who You Are, and it’s being led by Lion Goodman who developed a potent process that helps us delete limiting beliefs and re-program ourselves with a new set of positive, empowering beliefs that are aligned with our highest values and most authentic selves.

Click here to register for free: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/um1/drkaren

Lion has shared this technique with hundreds of clients with amazing results. It sounds like a powerful practice that can serve your evolution as a man for the rest of your life. (Women are welcome to join the call, too!)

In addition, Lion is leading a 9-week course for men called The Ultimate Man: Activating a Life of Integrity, Authenticity and Power, featuring 8 top transformational teachers, including Robert Moore, Satyen Raja and Keith Merron. It starts August 3rd, and you can check it out here:https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/umc/drkaren

Warm regards,
Karen

One of my healing counselors, Patricia Lee Jones, of Healing Adventures, just wrote a great article on “how to have a happy marriage”. It is the second of the series and she asked to use my photo with James, my romantic partner.

The reason I encourage you to read this article is because she talks about a “new” way of connecting to people. The new intimacy isn’t about sharing secrets, your daily troubles or even sex. The basis of the new intimacy is based on something called Core Essence. If this is a new term for you, you’ll want to read on:

Here is the LINK

Even when your mate is disgruntled or doing something that annoys you, you can still be in a positive intimate connection with them. Amazing isn’t it? When you learn these skills, based in energy medicine (my specialty), your whole world of connecting with others will shift in such a positive way, you’ll wonder how you ever functioned without them.

And the cool thing is, these skills aren’t hard to learn, and everyone who wants to know how to do it, can!

Here is the article.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen

Dear Dr. Karen,

I have been married to my husband for 20 years and we have children. Even before we were married, he cheated on me. And he has time and time again! He lies and gets very defensive when I confront him, but eventually the truth comes out. I’ve left him seven times but I always go back. I’ve asked him to leave several times as well, but he always comes begging me to take him back.

And I always take him back because I love him so much. I still love him. I am tired of being hurt by him, but I remain suspicious that he’s seeing someone else behind my back. This way of life has tampered with my self-esteem and in search of solutions I have tried everything.

I now have come across the Law of Attraction but my doubts are still there: does he really love me and want to be with me? and can a situation like this change using the Law of Attraction? Please help!

Nina

Dear Nina,

Thanks for your honest letter. I hope my answer will be helpful to you. But first, I have a question for you?

What are you expecting the Law of Attraction to do for you?

Are you expecting it to magically change your husband so that he isn’t the “cheating type” any longer? Because if that is the case, then I can tell you very easily that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work this way. We can’t use the Law of Attraction to change other people against their free will.

However, what you CAN use the Law of Attraction for is to create happiness for yourself. Whether your husband is part of that ultimate happiness is up to you and the Universe to co-create together. Your Law of Attraction “wish” statement could be something like:

I am thoroughly enjoying a fulfilling romantic relationship with my soulmate.

Sometimes we fool ourselves in thinking we truly love someone when we only truly love certain parts, or aspects, of them. What I mean by this is that you seem to enjoy enough aspects of your spouse to keep him around. But there are aspects of him that you don’t like so you aren’t truly happy. Isn’t that right?

So here’s the truth of the matter:

• the highest form of love means being able to accept who our lovers are without judgment or expectation, but that doesn’t mean that you always like or enjoy what they are doing. There is a difference.
• you can’t change another person. You don’t have that kind of control. You can only change yourself and your reactions to situations. When you can change yourself and be fully responsible for your own happiness, then you’ll see the relationship shift remarkably.

So you have a couple of very simple choices here Nina. It is high time you took 100% responsibility for your experiences. He is not responsible for your unhappiness, you are. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but you’ve been on this yo-yo ride for over 20 years now. When will you decide to change your experience? When will you realize that what you’ve been doing all these years doesn’t work?

Here are some choices:

You can choose to accept that your husband “cheats”,  and in that acceptance, you can enjoy him as much as possible when he’s around, and give up trying to change or criticize him for not being who you think he should be (the equivalent of telling a bear that it should acting like an antelope)

Do something drastically different for a change maybe. For example,  study books on open marriages or polyamory and see if any of those resonate with either of you. If “cheating” was genetic, like diabetes, would you be as judgmental of it? Probably not. I’m not saying it is, but what if it was?

Just trying to open minds here…

How about this new thought pattern: Can you entertain the possibility that your husband loving other people in no way diminishes his love for you? Does a candle flame diminish when it lights another candle? Love is light. Think about that.

I’m bringing this up because we’ve been unconsciously indoctrinated in the concept that the ONLY way a relationship can be successful is through monogamy. Anytime there is an absolute rule, we all should be questioning it’s validity, because somewhere, sometime, long ago, someone made that rule in order to control others.

Remember, it wasn’t long ago when women and children were considered a man’s property. And in some parts of the world, they still are (sigh!).

So Nina, in summary, you can either change your perspective (by letting go of victim-hood, judgment or expectations) or change your situation by leaving, but you can’t change him. Got it? Hope so.

So if you’re not willing to leave because having him around is BETTER than not having him around, then just admit to yourself that you’ve CHOSEN this relationship in its current form and stop being the victim. You’re not the victim here. You’re choosing this. When you can be compassionate with yourself about choosing this relationship, then you can let go of all the judgment of how imperfect it is and just ENJOY your husband.

If these steps seem too difficult for you, as I imagine they might be, I suggest that you book yourself into seeing a relationship coach or counselor and get some support. We all need support for our spiritual and personal growth, so I encourage you to be courageous and find an expert that you resonate with.

In the meantime, I highly recommend you pick up a copy of Neale Donald Walsch’s book on Relationships and read it over and over again:

You can also listen to the interview I did with him HERE.

I believe in you Nina. Thanks for helping others with your question.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan
P.S. Anyone reading this post, feel free to comment.

Have you noticed the stress, chaos and destruction that is happening in the world lately? Does it bother you at all? Or are you at peace with it?

Maybe you’re eternally peaceful no matter what is going on. Maybe you are so clear on your “path” that nothing, even an earthquake in your midst, will sway you from the focus of your destiny.

But then again, maybe you feel a little frazzled or lost?

So if you’re in the latter camp, you may be interested in Colette Baron-Reid’s new book, The MAP Finding The Magic And Meaning in The Story Of Your Life. Like other book launches from my friends and colleagues, Colette has made sure that you get a lot of value out of her book by offering you a bunch of gifts…but before we talk about the gifts, here’s more about her book:

What you’ll find in The MAP

In her over 22 years as a sought-after Intuitive Counselor, Colette Baron-Reid has helped thousands of people all over the world re-claim the power to direct their lives with her innovative techniques. Now, in The MAP she personally guides YOU step-by-step through the revolutionary process she has perfected over the years. With Colette’s breakthrough approach, you’ll be able to:

Become the Mapmaker of your life and harness your incredible ability to shape your destiny and the world, even in the midst of challenges and uncertainty.

Tap into the power of your inner-landscapes so you can choose what you want to feel, think, and believe no matter what is going on around you.

Work with your imagination to alter yourself and your life.

Create lasting-change from within by shifting your perceptions, which then dramatically transforms your outer reality.

Connect with the profound wisdom within you, which will light your way when you feel lost or at the mercy of something outside of yourself.

Enjoy more fulfilling relationships, both with others and yourself.

Today I have joined with my colleague Colette Baron-Reid to offer you an astonishing treasure chest of gifts and prizes worth over $20,000. The prizes, some of them worth hundreds of dollars, are from some of the biggest names in the field of personal growth . . . spiritual growth . . . relationship building . . . mind body healing . . . Life Coaching and Meditation . . . ALL FOR F*R*E*E!

There are 8 top prizes worth over $1000.00 each.

• an all expenses paid trip for two to the Hay House I Can Do It Conference in Pasadena, CA this fall worth over $2500.00
• an all expenses paid trip (minus airfare) to a once-in-a-lifetime spiritual tour to Peru. “Andean Master Path”: June Solstice in the Andes: June 17 to 30, 2011. valued at $3679.00
• a full membership for the SWAT institute worth almost $6000.00

Colette herself is offering several prizes to Spend a Day with Colette in a One Day Workshop in the beautiful coastal town of Portsmouth, NH this July. As well as phone readings and many more prizes.

And lastly there are 2 KINDLES up for grabs.

Go see for yourself!

http://themaplaunch.com

WHY are she and her colleagues being so generous?

We’ve rallied around her to give her book the recognition it deserves and to encourage YOU to discover this brilliant new process. It’s but once in a few years that a book comes along like this that really captures the attention of so many people, and I highly recommend you check it out.

http://themaplaunch.com

So all you need to do to get a chance to win these amazing prizes and  automatically receive the author gifts is to buy just ONE copy of The Map for the special book launch price of around $10.00 ( price differs depending on the on-line store) and register your receipt on the website Colette has set up for you.

http://themaplaunch.com

See what people are saying about The Map

“This book teaches you to shift into a new magical awareness of your life; you’ll find a deeper understanding of where you are, where you’ve been, what you’ve learned, and the path forward that is your destiny. We all travel through light and dark; this book helps illuminate the way forward so you can transform your story and claim your authentic and best life now.”

— Debbie Ford, the #1 New York Times best-selling author of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

“Using landscapes as metaphors for what’s going on in our lives is brilliant. The Map is not just a rewrite of the same old concepts, The Map offers an entirely new and innovative approach that truly works”.

-John Holland, bestselling author of The Power of The Soul & Psychic Navigator

“This book is a magical touchstone that allows you a profound understanding of the deepest forces of your essence. You embark on the hero’s journey to identify the disowned, denied, or wounded parts of your being and then learn to integrate these aspects into your greater whole.”

-Denise Linn, bestselling author of The Hidden Power of Your Dreams

“I LOVE this book. Colette is an outstanding storyteller and a Metaphor Master. What an amazing opportunity for everyone to go on a delightful path of self-discovery, along an open road of magic, common sense and humor. Her practical self-awareness exercises lead you to a shining place of candid self-realization. Brilliant in concept and in an easy to read format, ”The Map” takes you to a wonderful place of empowerment and joy.”

-Yvonne Oswald, MHT, MNLP bestselling author of Every Word has Power

“This book is wonderful, whimsical, inspiring and revealing. It’s the perfect read for those who have ever felt lost and unsure of where they are in their lives. It will empower anyone willing to enter a magical world where they can find their true destiny.”

-Courtney Cox, actor, star of ABC’s Cougar Town

Between the great reviews and the amazing gifts and prizes, The Map is a book you’ll want to read!

http://themaplaunch.com

So, click on the link below and get your copy of The MAP: Finding The Magic And Meaning In The Story Of Your Life

Not only will you have made one of the best investments of your life, but you’ll also get access to over $20,000 in gifts and prizes.

http://themaplaunch.com

Thanks and happy reading!

Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
http://LawofAttractioninLove.com

P.S. Remember, YOU have the ultimate power to shape your destiny. No longer do you need to feel lost, uncertain, unworthy, or held back. Harness YOUR power today with The MAP!

If you’re into the Law of Attraction, metaphysics, quantum physics, higher consciousness or just plain into manifesting the relationship of your dreams, read on…

I’ve been doing a LOT of studying lately. On many different subjects, but all related to two major themes: Energy and Consciousness.

On the health front, I’ve been researching how electromagnetic fields (for example microwave radiation from cell phones and cell towers) can be extremely hazardous to your health. Over Christmas, I became extremely sensitive to wireless radiation (sigh!) and thus I began researching some remedies (yes I found some!).

I’ve also been into knowing more about where our food in America comes from. It isn’t a pretty picture. James, my partner, and I have been watching movies like Food Inc., The Future of Food, The Beautiful Truth and King Corn.

What’s really interesting is how the lower quality “energy” coming from our food today translates, in essence, into a lowering of your energy levels available for manifesting!

Just think. What you eat can be interfering with how you manifest!

It’s all about energy. Allowing the energy in your body to drain away because you spend a lot of time using your computer or cell phone (luckily I discovered a couple of neat tools to prevent that) or by eating low energy food (pesticide ridden produce and meat from stressed out animals) means less energy available to harness the Law of Attraction.

And what does this mean about attracting your ideal romantic partner?

Less energy = Less attractiveness. Period.

As a holistic physician and energy healing professional, I have lots of information and tools at my disposal. I could go on and on about what I personally use to enhance my “vibration”, but I’m going to start by suggesting you do the simple five minute exercise below.

As a testament to this stuff “working” in our lives, I want to share two quick stories. Last week, while I was coaching a couple on Skype using my webcam, the man commented on how I seemed to “radiate”. Also last week, when my love partner, James, was out of town with friends, a woman he was passing on the street suddenly stopped and said rather loudly, “You are BEAUTIFUL! You are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen!”

Nice.

How would you like to get comments like that?

Well, you can. Here’s your homework assignment for the next thirty days (preferably forever):

Every morning when you get up or every evening before you go to bed, write in a journal at least ten things you appreciate or are grateful for. At least two of these should be things you appreciate about yourself. If you’re ambitious like me, you’ll do another list of your successes for that day.

Most of us go to bed at night thinking about what we didn’t do rather than what we did do. We can be really hard on ourselves. Since the Law of Attraction states that what we focus on grows, I want you to start this habit of writing down all the positives in your life. I asked one of my clients with bulimia to do this on a daily blog and within two weeks I am witnessing the positive transformation in her life. My guess is that it was more effective than months of therapy.

This exercise may seem too simple to be useful. Don’t be fooled. This stuff works.

And make it fun. Buy yourself some nice colored pens and an attractive journal dedicated to this exercise. I have mine right by my bedside.

Let me know what you think by commenting below.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

P.S. In case you’re interested in checking out one of the tools I use to turbo-charge my manifesting abilities, check out this PAGE.

Wow, I’ve got a great treat for you today – and it doesn’t cost you a dime! Talk about abundance. I keep finding out about all these great teachers giving great value..and sharing them with you. I hope you enjoy them. Here’s another one…

What if I told you, you could view a priceless presentation from one of today’s most intriguing speakers that will provide you with the tools needed to achieve your goals – all from the comfort of your own home and absolutely F ree.

You would take advantage of it, right? Here’s your chance.

My friend and colleague, New York Times bestselling author Eldon Taylor, has created an exceptional video presentation for all to see for a very limited time. I believe this message is so important that when Eldon asked me to help spread the news about this F ree video, I said “absolutely yes!”

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Eldon’s three-part course addresses those areas that we all need to take into consideration if we are ever to achieve our highest best. This holds true regardless of your goals, whether your number one priorities are success and prosperity, building better relationships, or spirituality and personal peace.

Here’s what you will learn from Eldon’s presentation:

- 4 things you did not know about yourself that effect every aspect of your life!
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Eldon has presented numerous seminars and workshops across the country and around the world with people paying up to $500 to attend. Eldon is also a frequent presenter at the Hay House I Can Do It conferences and has been called a “master of the mind.”

I know this video will make a powerful difference in your life so please do check it out! Eldon’s presentation is the perfect roadmap to finding your spiritual self. You will love the phenomenal stories Eldon shares that will bring tears to your eyes and a warm glow to your heart. And the best part is, for a limited time you can view this presentation from the comfort of your own home absolutely F ree.

Please remember, act now, this video is only available F ree for a very limited period of time. Don’t miss out, click the link below!

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Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan
www.LawofAttractioninLove.com
P.S. If you haven’t listened to my radio interview (Sept 13th) with Eldon about Mind Programming, you’ll want to…you can listen to the archive free at www.blogtalkradio.com/drkaren. Enjoy!

Dear Dr Karen,

I have a question regarding taking action in order to manifest my dream partner. I currently live at home with my family and the only action and acting ”as if” steps I have been able to take are sleeping on one side of my bed, cleaning out my bathroom drawers and cupboards and leaving an extra toothbrush, towel, face washer and shower puff in my bathroom.

I am working on cleaning out some of my wardrobe space for his clothes and of course, I have written down my dream partner”s laundry list of attributes and qualities and am doing my embodying exercises every day.

My question then is since I still live at home, are these small actions inadequate or not enough? Is there more I should be doing?

Kind Regards,
S

Dear S,

You’ve done a fabulous job of working on your “acting as if” exercises, and it sounds like your attribute list is specific. So congratulations! Keep on doing your embodying exercises.

Your question is a good one which is why I’m answering it today. So are you asking whether that fact that you live with your family is preventing or detering your dream partner from coming around? That is, that what you’re doing is “not enough”?

If so, the answer is, “It depends”.

Even though on the surface it would seem contradictory to be putting so much effort into manifesting your dream partner while you still live in your parents home…unless you plan to attract someone who also wishes to live in your parents home, all is not lost.

The most important thing you can do is to “practice” the feeling of already having the partner you desire. So the rituals you are practicing is to create the vibrational state of having your partner already.

If you desire him/her to be with you in the home you now live, that is one thing, if not, then visualize (embody) scenarios where you live elsewhere.

That being said, you’ll want to make preparations for moving out of your parents’ home. It doesn’t mean you have to move out immediately, but it means that you need to make some goals and set up a timeline or plan as to when you want to be self-sufficient..even if that means renting a small apartment a mile away.

Why is that important?

Well, in my experience, a person really learns who they are by living on their own and experiencing all their choices first hand without parental interference so to speak. The confidence you gain will help you attract a partner who will not only love you for who you are, but will respect you as well (because you respect yourself).

When you know you can be happy and make it on your own without “someone” you’re leaning on for financial support (for example), you’ll be able to attract a higher level partner who is also able to be happy and confident.

You don’t want to “need” someone. Instead you want to be whole and you want your partner to be whole. Two “whole” people, not two halves.

So keep up the good work with your exercises. Now is the time to keep stretching yourself further. When you feel like you’re risk-taking a bit and you are a little uncomfortable, that usually means you are growing, and you’re headed in the right direction!

If you’re too comfortable (in your parents’ home), that may be a sign that your energy is not expanding big enough to magnetically attract the dream partner that matches your list. Make sense? Of course if you’re 15 years old, moving out may be a bit premature! So use your intuition when reading and interpreting my advice.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

Comments? Please let me know what other advice you’d like to give or what you think of my post.

I got an email from a close family member today. He was quite dejected because a computer virus had attacked his desktop computer…AGAIN. Both he and his wife are extremely careful not to download or click on links that look suspicious in their emails. They immediate erase anything in their email box that looks like forwarded emails from friends and family…just in case there is a virus. They bought sophisticated anti-virus software. They refuse to do FaceBook, MySpace or similar social networking because of the reports of identity theft etc. They won’t even open eCards that family members have sent them.

And yet, despite all the precautionary measures, this is not the first time that viruses have ruined his computer. On a number of occasions, both their computers have been attacked. How could it be that people who are so careful about avoiding viruses have experienced multiple attacks on their computers?

Well, I’m here to give you one perspective.

It is their fear of those attacks that attracts those experiences.

The Law of Attraction states that what you focus on grows. Now that doesn’t mean being naïve and not protecting your computer (in this case) from viruses, but notice the amount of ENERGY spent in the vibration of FEAR. In contrast, many people do tons of work on the internet – downloading, uploading, buying online, doing Facebook, Twitter etc. – in fact it is almost a requirement in successful business these days.

Why is it you think that they don’t get “attacked” by viruses to the degree my family members have?

It is because the attacks aren’t their focus. They do what is necessary to avoid viruses, but then they forget about it. They don’t constantly worry about getting attacked (like my family members do). They don’t talk about virus attacks. They don’t get angry, hyper, anxious when others may be less careful about virus protection. In fact, their focus is on the positive side of computing, so to speak – the fun they have connecting with others, learning new things etc. Instead of being fearful of new technology, they are thrilled with it.

Here’s a Law of Attraction rule: to the degree that you are afraid of something, it will come charging at you. So, on a scale of 1 to 10, if you are REALLY afraid of something happening, 8-10 out of 10, your vibration is so STRONG that you literally magnetize it to you. The bigger the emotion, the more frequent the emotion, the faster and stronger it comes.

If you are AFRAID of losing someone’s love instead of focusing on appreciating the love you do have today, you’ll risk losing it! If you’re afraid your partner will cheat on you, you can bet he/she probably will. If you’re afraid of being alone the rest of your life and never finding the love of your life…guess what? You might be!

Now that you know that, what can you do?

You can USE this rule/law to your advantage. When you experience fear, make an intention to let go of it. You can change your environment to minimize risk (i.e. don’t be naïve), but then let go of the fear once you’ve addressed the issue. When it rears its ugly head, remind yourself that you need to be putting a GREATER energetic force in the opposite direction to attract what you DO want rather than what you DON’T want. Go from fear to appreciation. Go from fear to appreciation and gratefulness.

You can do a “thought-switching” technique.

When the fear comes up, learn to literally “change channels”. You can even get humorous with your mind (the yogis call it your “monkey mind”). You can tell the negative thought, “Ah, thanks for sharing…I’ll cancel/pass” and then immediately move onto a different more empowering thought and emotion.

Be careful not to get caught up in other people’s fear. If their vibration of fear is greater and stronger than your positive vibration, you can “entrain” to their lower wavelength. Sometimes the most difficult situation to stay positive iswithin your own family of origin. Families have a way of pushing your buttons! It reminds me of the time my sister’s family was visiting with my parents. My parents were considerably fearful of the safety of their home while away. Sure enough, when my sister’s family returned home, they discovered they were robbed. The friend watching the home forgot to turn on the alarm one evening and their DVD movies were stolen.

But even if you’re experiencing a situation that you don’t want (being robbed for example), there is ALWAYS a silver lining if you’re looking for it. Like my teacher Eldon Taylor loves to say,

“I can’t WAIT to see what good comes of this!”

I encourage you to memorize this sage attitude-shifting thought and use it whenever “negative” things happen to you!

What was the silver lining (the gift) to my sister’s robbery?

Of the DVD’s the thieves stole, there were only three they didn’t steal. One of the DVD’s they didn’t steal was the movie, The Secret. Because they didn’t have any of their other movies, my sister, who had had the DVD for a year, finally decided to watch it. She liked The Secret and tried out the Law of Attraction for herself…and voila! She found out it works and she called me to tell me!

That was the gift.

So your homework is to become aware of how you’re attracting what you’re attracting and continually monitor and shift your focus to empowering thoughts and emotions.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

PS. I’m really loving my InnerTalk CD’s by Eldon Taylor…a way of programming the subconscious mind to automatically rewire it to positive thoughts. If you’re interested in them, you can check them out by clicking the banner below. My favorites are: Ending Self-destructive patterns, End Co-dependency, Millionaire Orbit, Money Management, Accelerated Healing and Well-Being (my patients love the music on this one), and Enthusiastic and Motivated (my partner tends to do a lot of housework whenever I play this one…he he)

Dear Dr. Karen,

An Indian priest told me I would never have a long lasting relationship with a man.  I’m tired of having my heart broken. I’m just wondering; what is the purpose of trying when you know it won’t last?

Mona

Dear Mona,

Having your heart broken is indeed tiring if it is something that happens over and over again, and you do not feel you have grown or benefited from the experience. On the other hand, the “most joyful” people on this earth are willing to “try” over and over again and possibly get their hearts broken. Why? Because it is in the journey that they learn the most amazing things about themselves and others.

So the direct answer to your question of “What is the purpose of trying when you know it won’t last?” would be:

“because I learn something new and wonderful about myself and others each time I try…and I become closer to my true Self”

Mona, even though this is the “answer” to your question, we’ll have to go deeper because the actual question you are asking isn’t what you truly want to know, is it?

Here are some other questions for you to ask yourself:

1.  If the Indian priest, whom I trust, tells me that I will never have a long lasting relationship, is that really my fate? Can I not change that fate?

2.  Am I willing to relegate my responsibility to co-creating what I want to another person who tells me it is impossible?

3.  Would I be willing to risk having my “heartbroken” if I knew that it was just part of the journey towards manifesting my ideal relationship?

4.  If my capacity for joy and peace is proportional to my willingness to experience pain and suffering, would I be open to experience what I need to learn in order to get to the other side?

Here’s the thing, Mona. You clearly want something different from what the Indian priest told you, right? So you have a decision to make. Those who have been studying and training the Law of Attraction will tell you that your desire is a powerful magnet to co-creating your reality with the Universe.

Your choices: You decide that you believe whatever the Indian priest says and you cannot change your fate OR you decide that what he/she said was just one perspective but that you choose to believe you can create a different reality.

It is up to you. I, for one, would prefer to create my own destiny. Of course, what we co-create is not in a vacuum…the outcome has to be in the highest good of all in order for it to happen. So in your situation, unless you can come up with a really GREAT reason that the world would NOT benefit from you being in a happy relationship, (maybe there is one, but I can’t think of any) then there is a possibility that you can achieve what you want.

Does that make sense?

Besides, what the Indian priest was “reading” when you saw him/her was your energy field at that moment in time. The energy you emanated was one of lack and disappointment, so it makes sense that your “future” was headed for the same energetic imprint. He/she was correct in their “reading”.

However, your “future” can change moment to moment depending on the average energetic field you are emanating. So to change your “future” you need to shift your current energy field to a higher vibration from one of lack and disappointment to one of gratitude and abundance.

Thus, even though the priest may have been “correct” in his reading at the time, it can become completely wrong if you jump to a new energy stream. And to jump to a new energy stream, all you need to do is start growing.

If all of us do not grow, do you know what we do? We die. Growing or evolving is part of our human journey. Plants are either growing or dying. They don’t stay still. Get it?

So if you’re getting the “same old thing” happening to you in relationships, it either means you haven’t learned from your past relationships and shifted into a higher energy state, or that the perception you have chosen does not serve you in getting you what you want.

Here is a quick exercise you can do immediately to start shifting a perception that doesn’t serve you. Instead of dumping all of your previously heartbreaking relationships into the “that was a waste of time and the only good thing it did was to hurt me” bucket, I want you to make a list of all the GIFTS you were given as a result of those relationships….and I mean EACH AND EVERY ONE.

Are you stumped yet? Or are you excited to start growing?

Can you not appreciate ANY of the gifts? Because there are many. To the extent you can “see” those gifts, you will shift into higher energy state, thereby moving towards (as opposed to away from) manifesting what you want.

Here’s a summary:

• You can choose to see your past as just “hurts” or as gifts from which you can grow and move closer to what you wish to manifest
• The priest will be “right” about his prediction if you do not consciously decide that he is not, (you take back the responsibility for co-creating your life instead of giving it to others)
• You have the power to co-create your reality even it is different from the one the priest told you about
• You need to move into a higher energy state in order to achieve a reality you have not been able to create previously
• Working on your personal growth is the way to move into a higher energy state

Mona, I challenge you to write down (you can use the comment section below the blog post) every gift you can appreciate from your past “heartbreaking” relationships, so you can move forward. This is just a start. Often we need help in shifting our energy. What you can do is get support from someone who has already accomplished what you wish to accomplish and learn from that person.

I believe in you.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

www.lawofattractioninlove.com