The Law of Attraction in Love

Top Three Reasons

Why You Haven’t Manifested Your Dream Partner Yet:

Reason #1: You are actually “looking” for your partner

How many times have you heard someone say, “I’m looking for the right person” or “I haven’t found the right guy yet”? There are even books and television shows that perpetuate the myth that we are supposed to “find” or go “looking” for this so-called soul-mate or perfect partner.

When you understand the law of attraction, you’ll come from a completely different perspective. In essence, your partner isn’t actually found - he or she is created by you! In fact, you can custom order your partner from The Universe. By the way, I am using the term The Universe interchangeably with God, Zero Point force, Universal Mind, Universal Energy, Great Spirit etc.

Don’t look for your partner “out there”, but look for her “in here” (pointing to your chest). Now what do I mean by “custom order”? Imagine this. You have a Fairy Godmother and she is standing (well, maybe flying) in front of you. She asks you, “Who would you like me to manifest for you?” Now it is your job to describe in great detail the type of person you wish her to materialize for you.

For example, what kind of personality does she have? How about his intelligence? Attractiveness? Is she an independent, high-powered career-oriented person or a stay at home family person? What interests do you want him to share? Does she have to like children? Where do you want to live? How old do you wish him to be, if that matters?

Are you getting the picture? YOU actually get to custom order your partner from The Universe (via the Fairy Godmother in this particular example)! There is no finding or looking! This partner will come to you in some way, shape or form. The law of attraction states that in order to manifest something, you need to have an intention, which is a form of thought energy.

There are other steps involved in manifesting and we will cover these in more detail in later articles and in my E-book, but first you need to state your intention clearly- or make a wish as my favorite intuition teacher, Laura Day, would say.

The more specific and detailed your wish, the better in my opinion. Ask The Universe for the important details and leave the unimportant details out. For example, if you don’t care what color hair your partner ought to have, then leave it out…so you can be surprised! On the other hand, if you just HAVE to have children, then you should state that clearly in your intention that your partner loves children. We will cover exactly how to phrase your intention, in terms that invokes the law of attraction to the greatest degree in much greater detail in my E-book, but for now, let’s continue.

Now, there is one stipulation, or “rule” shall we say in custom ordering your dream partner. The rule is this: do not assume you already know who this dream partner is. You could be madly in love with someone who you think would be the perfect partner…except for one little detail….she is just not into you!

Even though you’d think that by thinking of this person day and night, you’d be using the law of attraction to attract them, right? Except for one problem. You do not have control over another’s thoughts, and his thoughts create his personal vibration. If your vibrations do not match you will not be able to attract him.

Huge amounts of energy have been wasted away over the centuries as love stricken men and women pined away for unrequited love. If you have a love interest that is not reciprocating your affections, that means that he is NOT the right person for you, as much as you think he should be.

The Universe is very resourceful and creative in co-creating your perfect partner, and if you think you can do better “alone”, you have made a grave mistake in your quest. So long as you “hang on” emotionally to someone who doesn’t love you back, you’ll actually block The Universe from giving you your dream partner! Why? Because there is no space for that new perfect partner. Furthermore, the message you are sending to The Universe is to bring you more prospects that do not love you back! Yikes! We discuss the importance of creating space or an energetic vacuum in later articles.

Reason #2: You are not clear and consistent in your intention

When you set an intention, or make a wish, or ask The Universe for what you want, you need to be absolutely clear about what you want. When you are wishy-washy with your asking, you get wishy-washy results. The more consistent you are in asking for the same thing over and over again, the more likely you are going to get it. The law of attraction works in this way.

My friend, Christina, told me that she manifested her husband within three weeks of intentionally writing down all the qualities of the man she was interested in pairing with. It can be that simple for many people.

The Universe receives your vibration, or tune, every second of every moment. The louder and more consistent the vibration of your intention or thoughts, the sooner your thoughts will manifest. I’ll give you a personal example to illustrate what I am talking about.

A few years ago I set out to consciously manifest a figure skating partner in order do pairs figure skating. At my age and skill level, few eligible figure skating men were available in the world, let alone in the United States where I reside. I thought I was very clear on what I wanted - a male figure skater willing to skate pairs.

However, as the months passed, I made all sorts of “errors” in my manifesting. One of those errors was not being clear about the type of relationship I wanted. Even though I simply asked for a pair skating partner, that wasn’t truly all I wanted. In actuality, what I really wanted was a man I would fall in love with and skate happily ever after with!

You see, I did not include the part about ‘falling in love’ in my original intention, yet The Universe was sensing it the entire time, and I was not easily manifesting what I wanted. I would date men who did not skate (because I believed that I could not have both a skater and a lover in one) while at the same time “looking” for my pair skating partner online etc. Let’s just say I was very busy! What I was doing was not working, and was actually blocking The Universe from bringing my perfect partner to me.

Finally, one day I received guidance in the form of Dr. Doreen Virtue’s beautiful Angel Cards. I don’t use these cards a lot now, but back then, I used them as a tool to access my intuition. The guidance from the Angels was this: “You are not CLEAR enough in your wishes, my dear. The Angels cannot bring you what you want if you are not clear enough”.

In response, I wrote a detailed and humorous letter to the Angels, (I tell you what I wrote in my E-book). What I asked for was so fantastic, so rare, that I chuckled with the seeming impossibility of it. Yet, on some level, I wanted it badly enough to let go of the belief that it was impossible.

After I became clear, I began to dream consistently of my new reality. It was soon after this point that I manifested my dream partner. This brings us to another important issue when using the law of attraction to consciously manifest someone.

Being consistent is as important as being clear. If you change your mind daily, weekly or monthly about the kind of person you want, or the live you wish to live, you’ll “confuse” The Universe. When It senses your first wish, it will start moving people, places and things to your bidding, but then if you change course (by changing your mind), it will begin shifting these all over again in a new direction. The more you change your mind, the slower you’ll get your dream partner.

Let me reiterate. Be VERY CLEAR and consistent on what you want. And you can learn from my personal example, which is to ask for what you REALLY want, not a downgraded, watered-down version. That brings us to our next point.

Reason #3: Your vibration is not big enough

So you’ve set your intentions and understand fully that you can custom order the partner of your dreams. You’ve also made your intentions as clear as possible. Now what?

Another reason why you may be having difficulty manifesting your dream partner is that you have no passion for what you say you want. The “bigger” the want in your perception, the more passion you must have for it. The law of attraction works that if you perceive that manifesting a partner is a larger task than say, manifesting a piece of pizza, then you’re going to need a heck of a lot more energy directed at manifesting your partner.

When I talk about passion, I’m really talking about energy. How do you measure your energy? This is measured two-fold when it comes to manifesting. Firstly, how much overall energy do you possess in general? In other words, how do you feel most days? Do you dive into your day with passion and vigor, or are you barely getting through the day due to exhaustion?

Your overall energy will affect your ability to manifest. Occasionally, however, your passion for your “wish” can be so great, that it actually energizes you enough to create a powerful vibration to which The Universe responds with similar strength. So, when you have great passion for manifesting your dream partner, you’re going to be successful much sooner.

Do you spend time talking about your dream partner? Do you journal every night about your dream partner? Do you daydream about you and your dream partner doing the things you love? Do you read books on relationships and grow yourself so you can attract a partner with good relationship skills? Do you go to counseling to clear any “junk” out of your unconscious mind created from former relationships?

When the passion for your wish is greater than your overall energy state, it is actually helping you increase your overall energy. Think of it as borrowing the energy from The Universe. It isn’t like you are separate from The Universe - you are part of it, as is every living soul on this planet. You can share energy and use it for your own manifesting.

As you vibrate with passion, your vibration gets bigger and bigger (or in musical terms, louder and louder). The bigger your vibration, the greater effect you will have on your surroundings and the rest of the universe.

There is a scientific term for this. It is called entrainment. In the heart muscle, for example, there is a group of special cells that beat at a certain rate. They are the “beat makers”. The other heart muscle cells follow the pace set by these special cells, and in other words, they entrain to the “beat makers”. Nature likes to save energy and likes efficiency, and when things vibrate similarly, energy is utilized efficiently.

Other examples of entrainment in the world are fish that swim in schools or birds that fly in formation. Dolphins are well known for their healing abilities because they can literally “scan” an organ in a person, notice the cells that are not vibrating in sync with the other healthy cells and, zap them with their unique “dolphin ultrasound” in order to get them back in sync. Unhealthy cells are just cells out of vibrational sync with their healthy counterparts.

Dr. Jeffrey Thompson has done neuroacoustic research in California that has shown that you can train the brain cells to vibrate at a certain frequency with specially created three dimensional CD recordings. In training these cells to vibrate in a healthier relaxed state, you can actually tune up the entire body to a greater state of health.

So when your vibration is large, YOU become the “beat maker”. And according to the law of entrainment, everyone and everything around you begins to follow you. You attract similar vibrations - the law of attraction. When your vibration is low or your life is passionless, you will tend to follow rather than lead, and you’ll likely attract lower vibrational events and people into your life. Certainly this is not fun!

So be passionate and energetic for what you want!