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We did it! James and I won three gold medals thanks to you!

Posted on 27 April 2010 by Dr. Karen

First of all THANK YOU for your energy in helping my dream partner, James, and I skate our best at the 2010 Adult National Figure Skating Championships! Even if you didn’t know you helped me, you did!

Neale Donald Walsch in his book, Happier Than God, calls it the Multiplier Effect. When all of us with a similar vibration are connected and we intend good things for one another, we ALL benefit. In fact, we benefit faster than just intending good things for ourselves.

If you read my April 11th blog before I left for Nationals, I made it VERY public what our intentions were:

  1. James and I skate a passionate, powerful pairs and singles programs to the best of our abilities with full presence; being in the moment.
  2. We inspire others to skate with passion and joy.
  3. We win three gold medals.
  4. We thoroughly entertain the judges and the audience.
  5. We have an amazingly fun time connecting with people and especially with my close friend Peter who will be coaching us there.

Guess what? It all came true AND MORE!

Now you may be wondering why I made my intentions so public. Here’s the thing. I learned back in 2005 that if we aren’t completely clear in our intentions, then we often can’t manifest the outcomes we desire. I also learned that the courage it takes to acknowledge what we want and to ask for it is part of the manifesting process.

Thus, I was putting myself at some “risk” by announcing my intentions. How many people do that? How many Law of Attraction teachers do that? I don’t know the answer to that, but I wanted to show you that this Law of Attraction stuff really works. And that I’m for real.

Here’s the play by play in case you’re interested:

Intention No. 1 – James and skated as we intentioned. We weren’t perfect, but we skated with passion and presence and our pairs performance was clean (no mistakes).

Intention No. 2 – I predicted (and told everyone ahead of time) that our pairs event was going to be VERY good and that everyone would skate well. That indeed was the case. People thought it was a fluke, but I knew it wasn’t. It happened because the Universe and I wanted it to happen and it was for the “highest good”.

Second thing. Two years ago, one of the skaters from the top-ranked Masters pair team in the country (two levels higher than we are) loved our 2008 program so much, she fashioned their program along a similar style this year and they won a gold medal! If that isn’t inspiration, I don’t know what is! Cool or cool?

Intention No. 3 – Three skating events, three gold medals. In my singles event, all the judges put me first 🙂

Intention No. 4 – We knew people enjoyed our skating from the compliments we received not only from skaters, but also from coaches, vendors and even the official photographers!

Intention No. 5 – We were reunited with my close friend and first skating partner Peter. We had a wonderful connecting time AND we got to know our relatively new ice dancing friends who competed on behalf of the same Skating club. We enjoyed our new friends so much and it was such a treat to cheer each other on!

…and the Bonus!

The Bonus is like the extra REWARD you get from learning the lessons you need to learn when you manifest. Don’t think that it was all easy, it wasn’t. But at the same time, training the mind to maneuver past obstacles and judgments were the key for me personally.

Here are my Bonuses from The Universe:

Bonus #1: I happened to bump into a coach that I met at my very first competition way back in 1998 that I haven’t seen in over 10 years. He was the one who got me interested in pairs. He did a few lifts with me back in 1998 and I was forever hooked! We lost contact and I was sad that I never got the chance to tell him how much I appreciated him.

It took a very long time before my dream of competing in pairs manifested (10 years to be exact) but it was worth the wait. The Bonus was that I got to finally tell him face-to-face what a gift it that he gave me. I got the opportunity to gush my appreciation.

…and you know what? Maybe he really needed it. He is currently going through a really personally challenging time in his life. Couldn’t we all benefit from knowing that somehow, we made a profound difference in someone’s life?

My second Bonus? I got to meet and get a photo with Lloyd Eisler, one of my favorite Olympic pairs skaters, who was there coaching some other teams!

In writing all this, I’m celebrating. It is important for you to celebrate your “wins” as well. When you celebrate, the Universe gets the message that you want MORE of that energy! I never used to celebrate…I was so incredibly serious way back when. Now, I practice celebrating as often as I can! I encourage you to do the same.

This story isn’t just about what James and I accomplished, but it is about what ALL of us together can accomplish. We all need support and I have an incredible team of support. I hope you do to. If you need more support, let me know what you need by going to the coaching page.

When I win, you win and vice versa. Thank you again for being part of my Law of Attraction in Love Community!

Dr. Karen Kan

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Mama Said There’d Be Dates Like This

Posted on 27 April 2010 by Dr. Karen

I know sometimes I can be rather serious when I write my blogs, but today, I want to share a really cool book for those of you who really need a good laugh when it comes to dating.

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Dr. Karen

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Please send me some Energy this week!

Posted on 11 April 2010 by Dr. Karen

This week marks the time when everything comes together after two years of preparation, where my partner and I get the opportunity to push ourselves past our limit of comfort to test all that we’ve learned in the spiritual arena.

It all comes down to two minutes and forty seconds.

And I’m asking for your support…Energetic support. There’s nothing to buy, nothing to donate except a few moments of your time and the energy of loving positive thoughts and well-wishes. That’s it!

Do you know how powerful you are?

I know. That is why I’m asking you for support. And if for whatever reason, it doesn’t feel right for you, that’s OK too.

You’d be amazed at the power of an intention shared by a group of like-minded people! If you’ve read The Intention Experiment by Lynne McTaggart, you’ll know what I’m talking about!

This week, my dream partner and I will be competing at the Adult National Figure Skating Championships.  We’ve had our ups and downs over the last two years (frozen shoulder, various injuries, arguments, miscarriage, emotional stuff, etc.), but everyone does. I’m sure you do too.

But there is something magical about intending an outcome and seeing how it manifests. I can guarantee one thing (and it isn’t that we’ll win a gold medal); that EVERY competition is a new personal growth experience for me.

Last time we competed at Nationals, I learned that “I don’t have to be perfect to win”. It was a valuable lesson because my achilles heel is always striving for perfection.

In 2008 when James and I won our first gold, I was happy to witness how unattached I was to the gold medal. We had messed up badly (or so we thought) during our performance and I even ended up on my butt in front of the judges! But I was thankful for the experience of feeling at peace despite the mistakes.

To our utter surprise, we still won the gold medal!  I felt tears welling up when we found out because it was as if the Universe was rewarding me with how unattached I was to the outcome. In the past I would have been devastated and angry at my partner for the mistakes.

It was if Spirit was saying: “You did good kid for being able to let go of the outcome even though you intended to win and you thought you didn’t“.

I had learned to let go. This is what you must do as well in order to manifest your dreams as quickly as possible.

So here are my intentions that I’m publically announcing (sometimes a little scary to be this authentic, but here goes!):

  1. James and I skate a passionate, powerful pairs and singles programs to the best of our abilities with full presence; being in the moment.
  2. We inspire others to skate with passion and joy.
  3. We win three gold medals.
  4. We thoroughly entertain the judges and the audience.
  5. We have an amazingly fun time connecting with people and especially with my close friend Peter who will be coaching us there.

Here’s how you can help us. Imagine all those intentions coming true and how that would feel for me and imagine how it would feel for you to have helped us achieve our intentions with grace and ease.

Just read the intentions, close your eyes and imagine a scene where it all comes true – the smiles, the applause, the warmth, the fun…

That’s it. Just a minute. That’s all it takes. And guess what? You just received an energy boost for your OWN dreams by doing this exercise for me. That’s how it works in the holographic universe!

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!

Dr. Karen Kan

PS. please feel free to comment below to share any wisdom, well-wishes and prayers with us. Thanks again! You are AWESOME!

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Dear Dr. Karen: Why Did My Blissful Law of Attraction Relationship Turn Sour?

Posted on 02 April 2010 by Dr. Karen

Hi Dr. Karen,

About 3 years ago I began learning about the Law of Attraction. Single at the time, I immediately made a list of the qualities I desired in a partner and began imagining meeting him. It worked VERY quickly: in 10 days I’d met who I thought was The One. The first year or so was blissful, but I gradually realized that we had MAJOR differences and incompatibilities. Now, 2.5 years into the relationship, our couple is seriously in danger of breaking apart and it has become clear to me that this is not The One after all. My question is this: how did I attract the wrong guy by using what is supposed to be the right method?

Hoping to hear from you,

Dear Katrin,

Great question and I’m glad you asked. You did a wonderful thing by intentionally manifesting your partner into your life. You took the time to make a list of qualities you desired in a partner and did your visualizations. Then 10 days later you met him! I hear many stories like yours so we know these Law of Attraction tools work.

So now things are going downhill and you can hardly believe why, and are questioning whether you attracted the wrong person in the first place. Well, I can understand why you’d believe that. We’ve all been conditioned from our parents, television, movies and society to believe that relationships are supposed to be blissful forever and that once you find the “right” person, you’re set for life…or at least it wouldn’t be this challenging?

Right? Ring true…even just a bit?

Here’s the thing. You didn’t attract the wrong guy. You attracted the right guy for where you were when you intentioned him into existence with the Law of Attraction. In other words, you attracted the right person for the level of consciousness you were vibrating at when you made your list. Are you with me so far?

So what went wrong? Well, here’s my perspective. Where we often go wrong in our relationships is that our expectations are unnatural. What do I mean by unnatural? OK, think of your relationship as a plant. What does a plant need to flourish? Water, sun, tender loving care right?

Do you know what most people do in relationship? They “fall asleep”. In other words, they do not nourish the “plant”. They do not tend to the plant on a regular basis. What would happen to a real life plant if one day, while admiring how beautiful it looked, you decided to suddenly stop watering it? After a few weeks, it would wither away and die wouldn’t it? What if you over-watered it and didn’t pay attention to its needs? It would also die.

In nature, something is either growing or dying. Another word for this is transformation. Nothing stands still…not even a rock (that is a quantum physics discussion I’m not going to go into right now). So if a plant is not growing, what is it doing?

It’s dying.

So in relationship, we are rarely taught as children as to how to tend to it, how to properly nourish it. We just assume that since it was beautiful to start with, it should remain so indefinitely.

This is an unnatural expectation!

Some would argue that they do indeed nourish their relationships. Their idea of nourishment means making sure they do their “half” of the chores, paying the bills, taking care of the children, going out eat once in a while, having sex etc. That is NOT what I’m talking about. The grand majority of people I know, myself included, go into a deep slumber when it comes to being conscious of how the relationship is growing or worse yet, if it is growing at all!

Here is how you know whether your relationship is growing:

  • You discover new things about yourself, how you tick, because of your relationship
  • You appreciate and discover new things about your partner, gifts you never recognized before
  • Conflict is less scary and you seem to be able to resolve them faster and easier, even if you disagree
  • You pursue your personal dreams – your mission – and your partner supports you in that or at least is neutral about it
  • You allow your partner to be who they are without trying to change them
  • You and your partner become more conscious of who you really are as individuals and why you attracted each other
  • You heal old patterns by practicing new ones with your partner
  • You’re willing to make mistakes in the relationship and learn from them instead of playing it safe all the time

This is not an inclusive list by far, but what I want to emphasize the most is that instead of expecting the relationship to stay the same, we ought to be focusing on actively growing it.

We all want a heart-connected relationship, don’t we? But most of the time we get so wrapped up in our daily lives that we lose consciousness of nurturing the relationship.

So why do relationships seem more difficult as time goes on?

We attract the partners we do because they serve as our spiritual teachers and healing partners. Even abusive ones, believe it or not. Often they play the same role as our parents did so that we can heal our childhood hurts. We literally PULL from them the negative things we experienced as children. If someone had taught us long ago that our partners’ role is to be our teacher, we’d then appreciate them for giving us a new opportunity to HEAL our past hurts.

But most people have no idea why they’ve chosen the partner they did.

Our partners can highlight for us our deepest shadow…something so uncomfortable that you feel like running away. But if you realize that your partner is your teacher and you can become conscious of what he is bringing up for you, you can heal it. And that does not necessarily obligate you to continue the relationship in its current form (i.e. you can split up if you want to).

Since most of us never went to Relationship School 101, myself included, we just muddle along the best we can. But truthfully, we all need guidance, mentorship and skilled support in the area of relationships.

So do you want to know what James and I do?

Firstly, we’ve committed to a couples session with our spiritual coach/healer on a monthly basis. Most of the time there is nothing “wrong”, but we go because we want to stay “awake” and we want to grow the relationship. It is amazing how quickly each of us can fall asleep! Without that objective third person to “see” through our old patterns, it can be very difficult to realize when we are getting caught up in them.

I’m a huge proponent of preventive “therapy”. In other words, I feel that couples that truly wish to flourish for a long time need to be reconnecting in a deeper way either through couples coaching/counseling on a regular basis, or through spiritual retreats and workshops at least twice a year. As well, having a weekly or monthly couples ritual can be vitally energizing to the relationship.

Why is it that people only seek “help” when their relationship is on the rocks? I’m sure you already know the answer to that question.

Secondly, make sure you dedicate a weekly “Date Night” where the agenda is just fun and connection. Pick something you both like doing and don’t let anything get in the way of “Date night”. If you have to reschedule it on occasion that is fine, but see its importance just like any other important commitment you’ve made such as going to work, brushing your teeth, exercising, paying your mortgage, etc.

So Katrin, are you ready to give up on your relationship? You can use the Law of Attraction again and again to intend the type of relationship you wish. It doesn’t end with just attraction The One. And remember, growing requires some degree of getting out of your comfort zone, so get some coaching, guidance and professional support, even if it is only for yourself.

What you do not “heal” from your past in this relationship, will resurface in the next (thanks to the Law of Attraction). You cannot escape it. It is part of becoming the biggest, happiest SELF you can become. You might as well become conscious of what you are supposed be learning in this relationship before you abandon it completely.

I believe in you.
Dr. Karen Kan

PS Let me know what you think of this article by commenting below.

PPS As you may know, I’m an avid reader of all sorts of personal growth books. This month, I’m highly recommending these two books: Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie and The Power of Full Engagement by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz.

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