Archive | November, 2009


Posted on 26 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

Here in America, we are celebrating Thanksgiving, a time where we celebrate all that we enjoy in our lives, for the people we have to love and the opportunities we have to connect. So I’d like to take this opportunity to THANK YOU for being part of my special Law of Attraction in Love community!

That you for trusting me to guide you through your relationship questions on my radio show and blog. Thank you using my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life, which gives you the formula to manifest your ideal partner. (and if you need a copy, just click on the image on the side). Thank you for listening or participating on my teleseminars and for your wonderful letters!!

Lastly, I’d like to thank you, in advance, for considering putting up YOUR Law of Attraction in Love Story through our video contest! Your story can inspire millions, so if you feel drawn to express yourself, please submit your entry. Deadline is December 1st!

Even though we have one day of formal celebration and thanks, you know that everyday is an opportunity to be grateful. What we “appreciate” comes back to us many fold from The Universe.

Dr. Karen Kan

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Most Important Teleseminar of the Year

Posted on 16 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

This month’s teleseminar topic will be an important one. Knowing what to say to your partner or potential partner and how to say it, can make ALL the difference in the world as to whether you have a peaceful relationship or World War III.

When we are getting along with our partners (or anyone else for that matter), we never have to think hard about how to communicate. But eventually in all relationships, even “dream” relationships, conflicts surface. Guess what? They are supposed to. It is part of your healing and growth.

So what do you do when you feel your partner isn’t listening to you? How do you communicate regarding a “touchy” subject? How do you bring up a topic that is uncomfortable but obviously needs addressing in your relationships? How can you communicate in the middle of a conflict that won’t get both of you more upset?

Don’t know? Not sure?

That’s OK. We’ll be addressing these questions in this month’s teleseminar entitled:

Communication Skills for Loving Peaceful Relationships.

Here’s the good news. Every GREAT relationship relies on communication skills. These skills are learned and practiced (you’re not supposed to be perfect at them!). So even if you’re not in a romantic relationship now, you can practice these skills on everyone else around you! You’ll be thankful you did.

Please join me for this FREE teleseminar on Thursday November 19th at 7:30PM EST. Details below.

Conference number 712-432-3900
Access Code 7677512#

If you can’t make this, you can still download the recording if you’re a MEMBER.

Talk to you Thursday!

Dr. Karen

P.S. Remember to enter our Law of Attraction in Love Video Contest! You can win free coaching or a free year’s subscription to our MEMBER site!

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Radio Show Monday: Love Your Body, Love Your Life with Sarah Maria

Posted on 14 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

Join me on this Monday’s radio show as I will be interviewing Sarah Maria. Sarah Maria is a body-image expert who helps people love their bodies no matter how they look. She shows people how to discover the beauty that is already inside of them, right now, in this moment. Once they connect with this beauty, they will discover that anything is possible – that they can create a body and a life that they truly love.

Sarah Maria’s mission is to create a world where every person sees this beauty in themselves and in others. In her book, Love Your Body, Love Your Life she outlines a five-step process designed to help people break free from Negative Body Obsession and discover the beauty that they already have inside of them.

Sarah Maria has trained with well-known teachers and physicians, including Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, Wayne Dyer, and Jack Canfield, among others. Her work has been endorsed by Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, and NY Times best-selling author Marci Shimoff, as well as many other notable physicians, psychologists, and educators. Before writing her first book, she received a law degree from Stanford and a Master’s degree in international affairs from Columbia University.

Here are the details:

Monday November 16, 2009 at 12 noon EST

Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit “1″ if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

Dr. Karen

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Flirting Without Being Too Obvious

Posted on 11 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

Dear Dr. Karen,

Does he like me? Is he just being friendly? And has the window closed?

Okay, new guy at work. Very attractive. So all my female co-workers are all over him. However, although he’s attractive, I am not as forward as them. He turned down their advances. He started talking to me, right away. Sometimes we talk for a hours at work. He comes by cubicle all the time. Sometimes I think he’s interested because he will say things like, what type of guys you like, what are you doing this weekend…etc.

He smiles or says Hi every time we pass each other, and there are times that if I am in another vicinity of the office, he will be there 5 minutes later! It’s weird. I caught him staring at me on numerous occasions. He also used to ask me for the lunch menu at our local diner, than I found out he never even visited that place! Also, other co-workers that did not talk to me, talk to me now, I believe because of him and our ”friendship”.

He hasn’t asked me for my number. Also, I don’t pick up on cues, (because I’ve been told that he has dropped subtle hints) so, I’m thinking he may think I’m not interested anymore, and sometimes, I think maybe he’s just being friendly. How do I step it up without being overt. Ooh…he is the new guy, and due to everyone fawning on him, he has been staying low-key…which makes me nervous talking to him.

What should I make of this?


Dear Sijay,

The first thought that came to my mind when I read your letter was, “What a delightfully fun position to be in!”

Sijay, if you’re getting feedback from others (whom you trust) that the New Guy is dropping hints, then he is either interested in you or he is playing a game where he wants you to be interested in him because he is used to all the attention and can’t seem to get yours!

So Sijay, it feels as if you could use lessons in creative flirting. Flirting has been given a “bad name” over the years, but actually, what it entails is energetic play. It is like a dance. There is inappropriate flirting – “coming onto” someone sexually just to manipulate them and get attention. However, there is safe and fun flirting that is connecting and enjoyable without being manipulative.

Since your style is not to be too forward (which probably got his attention in the first place), my suggestion to you is the engage in “flirting” by asking questions and stating your observations. Start with neutral questions and observations.

Here are a few suggestions you can play around with in your mind to see if they resonate with you:

While you’re in conversation with the New Guy, you might suddenly say:

YOU: You know what, New Guy? I’ve made an interesting observation.

HIM: Really? What?

YOU: I’ve noticed that ever since you came to work in this office, all the women here have been clamoring over you. What’s that been like for you? So what’s it like getting all this attention?

HIM: (blushing) ah, er, really? Or he might say,

HIM: Nah, I’m not interested in them.

YOU: Yes, really. Haven’t you noticed? Or

YOU: So you’re not interested in them? Really? So is there someone special in your life you’re not telling us about? Or

YOU: Gee, I was wondering about what kind of person you would be interested in?

YOU: Hmmm, you’re not playing “hard to get” are you?

Next time he asks you questions like

HIM: What are you doing this weekend?

You might wish to get up the courage to answer,

YOU: Why, are you going to ask me out?

or maybe you could be more creative and say,

YOU: Well, I’d absolutely LOVE to see the new movie, X, this weekend, but I don’t really feel like going alone….so
what are you up to?

Then you can see if he takes the hint. If he’s been hinting to you and is truly interested, then he may bite. If he’s playing around or you’re being too subtle for him, he may not.

You can also subtly call him on his antics:

YOU: Gee, you know, you asked me for the menu from the local diner, but you haven’t been there have you? I was wondering why you wanted it?

You’ll be pretty safe asking questions. You can also give genuine compliments. For example, when I first met my dream partner, James, I noticed his beautiful smile. So I complimented him on it. I wasn’t trying to flirt. I was just appreciating his beauty. Well! That really got his attention because apparently, he had no idea that he was good looking! Amazing isn’t it?

So find something genuinely interesting or attractive about the New Guy (assuming you ARE interested in him) and share your appreciations. It can go something like:

YOU: You know what I appreciate about you New Guy? You have the warmest smile/greatest laugh/very attractive eyes.


YOU: You know what I appreciate about you New Guy? Whenever I see you, it makes my day because you really know how to make me feel comfortable/make me laugh/ make me smile etc.

OK, enough flirting lessons for the day. The bottom line is this: you’re going to have to stretch a little out of your comfort zone to test the waters. It doesn’t mean that this guy is THE ONE you’ll spend the rest of your life with, but every relationship helps you learn more about yourself. Let this relationship be a springboard for your personal growth.

Happy Flirting, (and tell us what happens!)
Dr. Karen Kan

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Attracting Love Through Presence and Joy Rather Than Through Woundedness

Posted on 06 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

Firstly, if you haven’t yet checked out our video story contest, please do that here! I get a lot of people writing me about how my Creating Your Fairytale Love Life eBook, newsletters, blog posts, teleseminars or radio shows have helped them. I’d like to reward those who’d be willing to share their story on video because they’d be helping countless others who need inspiration.

So if you’d like to earn a great prize, or just to feel good about yourself, please submit your video. Contest rules are on

Speaking of radio shows, I have a brand new one coming up Monday! I’ll be interviewing spiritual healer and relationship counselor Patricia Lee Jones for a special segment that we can all benefit from. Pat is my personal couples counselor and spiritual healer and I’m sharing her wisdom with you!

Many if not most people get attracted to their mates through the unconscious vibration of their childhood traumas. I know that was true of my first husband. We weren’t aware of it at the time, but we were both needy of love and for whatever reason, felt unworthy of love at the same time despite different childhood experiences.

It is so easy to connect with someone who has gone through similar trauma. Thus we often attract each other through our woundedness. In my radio interview with Patricia Lee Jones, we’ll be discussing how we can move OUT of that dynamic into a new relationship paradigm that celebrates our wholeness.

A relationship based on presence and joy is so much more enjoyable, rich and satisfying than any relationship created through woundedness. I want this for you. So please tune in to the radio show or download the archive show. Here are the details below:

Here are the details:
Monday November 9, 2009 at 12 noon EDT

Call in number: 347-945-6313
Hit “1” if you’d like me to see your “hand up” to ask a question

The show will be broadcast live at Anyone can download the show free of charge afterwards in case you missed it.

I look forward to connecting with you on Monday!

Dr. Karen

PS. If there is a topic you’d like me to cover for this month’s Law of Attraction in Love Teleseminar, then please let me know by filling out the Ask Dr. Karen form on the home page.

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Special Announcment from Law of Attraction in Love

Posted on 02 November 2009 by Dr. Karen

YOUR NAME, you’ve won a FREE coaching session with Dr. Karen!

Wouldn’t you love to see that in an email? This CAN be your reality if you want it! Yes! You can win a free one-on-one coaching session with Dr. Karen worth $250 by entering our Law of Attraction in Love Video Contest.

What is this video contest about? Well, it’s about sharing your story with the world on how learning about the Law of Attraction in Love has changed your life and inspiring countless others to “go for” their dreams.

Have you learned something from the Law of Attraction in Love blog that has changed your life? Or have you resonated Dr. Karen’s answers in her Ask Dr. Karen newsletters? Or maybe you’re read her eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life and have already found your soulmate. Or you love the radio show.

If we’ve made a difference in your life, we want to know about it! And so do others! Other people need to hear success stories. If they see you doing it, they feel they can do it too. Let’s inspire the world together!

What you do is simple, just go to to read how to submit a video with your story. The deadline is December 1st, so do it right away!

You can choose from two prizes if you win: a free coaching session with Dr. Karen or a one year Law of Attraction in Love Membership subscription where you get to download recordings of all the teleseminars, sample coaching calls, and see some of Dr. Karen’s video trainings!

And here’s the REALLY great news. Just by submitting your video, you automatically receive the opportunity to be one of our Law of Attraction in Love affiliates! That means that you can have your personalized link to our site that you can share with friends and if they make a purchase of one of our downloadable books or programs, you get paid a heft commission!

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The Law of Attraction in Love Support Team

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