Dr. Karen,
My question now is: I have read many, many, articles on the laws of attraction and others have stated that ”you need only ask once” and it will come to pass. However, reading your article, you have said that thinking about it most often (in other words of course) it will come to pass. Which do you believe to be the correct way of thinking?
Thank you for your time.
Anna
Dear Anna,
Great question Anna. Let me rephrase it. It sounds like you’ve read that you only need to ask The Universe once in order to manifest your wish. At the same time, after reading my article, you perceived that you must think about your wish over and over again in order to manifest it. Is that right?
OK, here’s how it works, at least in my understanding. What is true is that you only need to ASK the Universe one time for your wish. Then, after asking, or in other words, setting your intention, you need to let it go.
And here’s where you need to pay attention!
What you need to let go of is the ATTACHMENT to your wish coming true. What you DON’T let go of is the passion, excitement and energy directed towards your dream/wish/intention.
When you order from the menu in a restaurant, you order once and then wait patiently for your meal to come, don’t you? You enjoy your wait. You don’t fret ever two minutes why your meal hasn’t come yet nor do you ask the waiter countless times whether he got your order. But you know what most of us do? We fret about our “order”!
When we set intentions, sometimes we lose faith that our “order” will come, so we either ask again and again out of anxiety, or we change course (change our minds). The latter is very common. I’ve witness many people discover a dream they wish to manifest. They become all fired up about it. But within a short period of time, they lose their faith and stop pursuing their dreams. Why? Because they don’t trust themselves to be completely responsible for CREATING their dreams.
Now, what I (and many others) teach is that once you set your intention, your focus needs to stay on your target (final outcome) or wish. You are not asking. You are planning for it. You don’t let distractions or obstacles prevent you from believing in your dream and taking the next step towards it.
I’ll give you an example. Say your wish is to swim with the dolphins. Once you’ve chosen the details of your wish, what do you do next? (please read the rest on my blog) Do you sit on the couch and watch movies all day? Will that get you closer to your dream? No, of course not. Will looking at pictures and movies about swimming with dolphins help? Yes, because they will get you in the vibration of already having experienced it (to the best of your imagination). But you need more than that.
Doing embodying exercises (see Chapter 2 in the eBook) will help you get into the vibration of having received. That is an “inner world” exercise. Then doing the “outer world” exercises of taking action in the real world take it to the next level. You cannot just have one without the other.
Your next step is “acting as if”. Your ACTIONS determine what happens. The Universe responds to the amount of energy you put forth in the direction of your wish. In our example, you would go and search the internet for dolphin experiences or search a travel guide. You would check out plane ticket costs, book time off from work, save money towards the trip etc. As the saying goes,
“Where attention goes, energy flows and results show”
Hope that clears up your confusion about the Law of Attraction and intention setting.
Blessings
Dr. Karen Kan
