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Dear Dr. Karen: He Doesn’t Love Me – Do I Just Remain in Pain?

Posted on 09 March 2009 by Dr. Karen

Hi Dr. Karen, Thanks for allowing yourself to be an instrument to help others. My question is this I’m in love with a man that simply doesn’t love me. It’s taken me a long time to accept this. Finally I’ve reach the place where I have accepted it. Yet it’s extremely painful. My question is how do I now move on to the next step of being open to this place of pain.  Do I just remain in pain until it stops?

Thanks,  Hurting in VA

Dear Hurting in VA:

Unreciprocated love can indeed be painful for us. At times, it just doesn’t seem fair, does it? But who says things are supposed to be fair anyway.

I give you a lot of credit for understanding that it is important to accept that he doesn’t love you back. Even more important though, is the question: Do you feel you are lovable? Just because he didn’t love you only means that he wasn’t your ideal match and that the Universe was making sure you were getting pretty clear signs that that was the case!

In order to attract your ideal partner, one that reciprocates your love, you must believe and FEEL you are completely lovable. Not everyone in the world needs to love you, of course, but YOU must love you. It may even be a bit humorous and healing to imagine that anyone (including this man) would be absolutely CRAZY not to love you! You ARE so wonderful afterall!!

Are you smiling yet? Even just a bit?

As far as your question about remaining in pain, let me assure you that the pain is temporary. However, there are ways in which we keep the pain going for longer than necessary. One of these ways is resisting being in pain. The more we resist, the more it persists.

Why do we resist? Well, because it doesn’t feel good does it? So try this on for size. Instead of resisting the pain because you don’t know when it will end and you are afraid to feel it fully, set aside a designated period of time for you to totally immerse yourself in pain. Allow yourself to fully say all those things that keep you in pain, not because I necessarily want you to believe them, but because I want you to consciously work with your pain not resist it. Set the timer for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes or however long you wish to FEEL. During that time, you allow yourself to be fully immersed in your feeling without distraction. Do not resist the tears, the anger, the frustration, the fear. Just let it all out. Beat on a pillow if you have to. Just know that you have a designated time you are permitting yourself to feel.

Once your time is up, it’s up. Switch gears. If you notice residual things coming up, just set them aside for your next “session”. Go on about your business in the NOW. If your mind wanders to self-defeating thoughts, learn to switch gears. You may have to switch thoughts over and over again, but that’s OK. It is a practice..like yoga or meditation.

What you’ll find over time, is that by giving yourself permission to fully feel whatever it is you feel, you release the resistance around it and it will eventually dissapate much quicker. Don’t be attached to getting rid of the pain quickly. Pain is a great teacher if you allow yourself to see its wisdom.

When you have allowed yourself to experiment with feeling the pain fully, it is possible that you cannot hold that level of vibration for very long before your body wishes to naturally switch gears. Be compassionate with yourself. Forcing yourself NOT to feel pain is adding to the pain. Just because you may have been taught that in order to use the law of attraction to manifest what you want, you must be positive, it doesn’t mean that you are supposed to be in a good mood all the time. In fact, resisting so-called negative emotions is counterproductive when you are consciously harnessing the law of attraction.

The Universe can sense when you are in resistance and it will give you more things to resist!

You may wish to try EFT (emotional freedom technique) or the Sedona Method or check out Byron Katie’s work to help move your emotions to a higher vibration.

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

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Being Happy Magnetically Attracts What You Want!

Posted on 04 March 2009 by Dr. Karen

Are you still wondering how to manifest what you want (like your soulmate) using the law of attraction?
Rhonda Byrne, creator of “The Secret” wrote…”The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life.”

Marci Shimoff, acclaimed teacher in “The Secret,” passionately agrees. Marci has cracked the code on happiness and developed a remarkable 7-step process to boost your happiness–no matter the uncertainties in your life.

I agree 100%: happiness is a powerful attractor. And, I strongly urge you to read the letter below. You’ll instantly see why it is endorsed by other teachers in “The Secret” such as Jack Canfield, John Assaraf, Marie Diamond, James Ray, Michael Beckwith, Hale Dwoskin, Lisa Nichols, Bob Doyle, and Bill Harris. Keep reading…
Dear Friend:

I was shocked to learn on the radio that people who are happy earn $750,000+ more in their lifetime than others. That’s an eye-opener especially given today’s economy.

More than 255 studies show that money doesn’t buy happiness. Studies say it is the other way around: Happiness brings money.

Happy people are more fulfilled, relaxed, and peaceful, even in this recession. They naturally have greater opportunities, better health, deeper friendships, more success, and so on. Their happiness is NOT because they get all of the good stuff. Rather, they’re naturally happier and, as a result, the good stuff comes.

…including high wages. Great relationships. Career advancements. Customers. Great deals. Contentment at home. Isn’t that the best way to live life? Not chasing money or external things to make you happy, but simply being happy from the inside out and enjoying the rewards.

You may have heard of Marci Shimoff’s phenomenal bestseller “Happy for No Reason,” which has just now come out in paperback for less than $15–it is so useful in today’s world that it’s published in 28 languages. This is a breakthrough book, a practical book — not a Pollyanna-ish book — that shows you step by step how to raise your baseline of happiness.

This means that no matter what happens at work or in your relationships– no matter what stress plows into you – no matter the financial news — no matter how dire the circumstances — you will AUTOMATICALLY return to a higher level of happiness than you have today. It’s clear: you don’t have to get richer, thinner, or smarter to be happier.

That’s huge. That’s why after I read the first chapter, I exclaimed, “Holy cow! This will change the world.”

This book should be on every desk… in every office… every school… every nightstand. It should be in the hands of everyone you know. And for the price, you ought to consider buying copies for your friends and family.

You see… author Marci Shimoff has broken the code on happiness. All we’ve ever really wanted in life is to be happy. And Marci’s book shows you how. She gives you a clear, 7-step program that’s effective and fast. It works from the inside, out.

I’m so convinced that you should read this book, I’m going to give you additional resources to make sure you raise your happiness set-point and not just read about it.

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook  

Buy the new paperback “Happy for No Reason” today and you will receive these fantastic programs as a gift:

* “2009 Happy for No Reason Coaching Manual” — plus live group coaching session with Marci over the telephone.

* “Eliminate the #1 Belief that Blocks Your Happiness” — an online interactive process with expert Morty Lefkoe.

* “The Passion Test Online” powerful software program to discover your passions, plus 30 days free access to create your personal Passion Plan

* “The HeartMath De-Stress Kit” — a 15-page guide with helpful practices to manage stress during these challenging times

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And there is more!

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You also receive:

* “Happiness: From the Blues to Bliss” recording by Marci and award-winning actress and author, Mariel Hemingway

* “Turn Happiness into Money” recording by Marci and CNBC wealth expert Phil Town

* “Feng Shui for Happiness & Prosperity” recording by Feng Shui Master Marie Diamond

* “Happiness Meditation” with Spring Forest Qigong Master Chunyi Lin

and to make you still more happy…

* Over 150 top authors and thought leaders, including Jack Canfield, John Gray, Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra, will give you recordings that support you having a wonderful, happiness-filled life of abundance and peace. (These alone are valued at more than $3000!)

Through these additional resources, you will understand how to be happier from so many perspectives that it would be nearly impossible for you not to radically improve your life by raising your baseline for happiness.

Order your book right now by going to:

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook  

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Happiness is “The Secret”

to the Law of Attraction

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Rhonda Byrne, creator of “The Secret” wrote…

“I want to let you in on a secret to ‘The Secret.’ The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life.”

You may have seen Marci Shimoff in “The Secret” movie. Marci is an undisputed expert on the Law of Attraction.

Like Rhonda, she knows that Happiness is a powerful attractor. She knows — and she teaches you in the book and on the free recordings — that happiness helps draw to you whatever you want.

That’s how she became a #1 New York Times best-selling author, even before the paperback was released. People have purchased more than 13 million copies of her books. That is extraordinary considering that most books never sell more than 2500 copies. She is a mega successful author who knows that happiness is the secret to life.

And she knows how to help anyone — YOU! — quickly become happier, and remain happy for the rest of your life. And that’s what you get in her book and in the special bonus recordings that you will receive right now when you order her book.

Why was Marci on NBC’s “The Today Show?” Why did PBS produce a special on happiness with Marci as the host? Because as one magazine declared, “Happiness is the newest fashion.” People are finally figuring out – with the help of the lousy economy — that it isn’t the new flat screen TV, or the iPhone, or the new wardrobe that makes you happy.

It’s the old chicken/egg thing. And happiness definitely comes first. Marci figured out how you can have happiness bubble up naturally from within, which is why the national media is clamoring to get her attention. She discovered that everything you need to be happier is inside – you just the simple instructions to uncover it. And, you should, because…

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Unhappiness shortens your life

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Research shows that unhappy people:

* Have a greater risk of heart disease, strokes, hypertension, infections, and Type 2 diabetes

* Release more of the stress hormone cortisol. They have a higher heart rate and may be at higher risk for heart attacks

* Are 65% more likely to get a cold

* Are less likely to find a spouse

* Live nine years fewer than their happy counterparts

So… when you are happy, you are likely to live longer. You are more emotionally and physically healthy, creative, energetic, compassionate, and successful!

…..In Marci’s book you will

…..take a test of 20 questions

…..to determine your level of happiness

You’ll then be given a practical 7-step strategy to increase your level of happiness and decrease the risks.

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook  

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Beware of this advice:

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“Find the things that make you happy and do more of those.”

That sounds good, but it’s a trap!

Your life would quickly fall out of balance if your happiness depended on your 401K, your home, your job, your health, your relationships…

You want to automatically generate happiness all of the time NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES. You don’t want to rely on anything else for your happiness. Not achievements, goals, money, relationships, a new car, fancy clothes, other people, or anything else “out there.”

You learn how in Marci’s book. It’s beautiful, simple, and practical, and written for today’s times.

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook  

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How to beat your genetics

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Believe it or not, happiness is 50% genetics. That’s why some people are just happy-go-lucky with everything turning up roses. That’s also why some people just seem to be rich automatically, without trying, even with the stock market at all time lows.

But that’s not the whole story. 50% of your happiness level is NOT genetics. The other 50% can be controlled by you! In the same way that you can crank the thermostat to warm up on chilly days, you can reprogram your happiness “set-point” to a higher level of peace and well-being.

This happiness set-point is the level of happiness that you maintain most of your life. If you are unhappy now, you will likely be unhappy 10 years from now… unless you do something to change it.

In her book Marci gives you a 7-step practical program to raise your happiness set-point quickly, easily, and effectively… so that you will be happier and happier in all areas of your life.

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The Happy 100

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Marci interviewed 100 unconditionally happy people. She combined the interviews with cutting-edge research and knowledge from the world’s leading experts in the fields of positive psychology and neurophysiology.

From that she developed the powerful, proven 7-step program that you can incorporate into your life to be happier right now — no matter where you start, no matter what’s going on in your life.

You’ll discover profound first-person stories of people who’ve applied these steps to their own lives to become Happy for No Reason.

You’ll read phenomenal tales from a former drug-dealer turned minister, a hit film-maker, a political refugee, and a famous actress who escaped a “family curse,” as well as stories from doctors, nurses, mothers, teachers and business executives.

You’ll learn practical, down-to-earth strategies based on the new science of happiness that will help you experience happiness “from the inside out.”

You don’t have to have happy genes, win the lottery, lose 20 pounds, or become a saint. By the time you finish reading Marci’s book, you will know how to experience an authentic state of sustained happiness for the rest of your life.

Add the bonus recordings and you have an unbelievable course in happiness that will put you on a course of miracles in your life. For less than $15!

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook

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Are you ready to be happier?

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I know that if you have read to the end of this letter you are quite likely to buy Marci’s book and receive the bonus resources and gifts. I shudder to think about the unfortunate few who will just go on with their day and not order the book now.

I am absolutely convinced of the power within this book. I hope my passion, sincerity, and conviction comes through in this letter. I hope you grab this opportunity to add so many riches in your life — for so few dollars right now.

Take that step, and order your own personal copy of Marci Shimoff’s “Happy for No Reason.” Get a copy for your best friend, your co-worker, and your favorite sibling. And come back within 14 days to claim your bonus recordings.

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook  

Be sure to thank whoever may have forwarded this email to you. And do write Marci and me about your experiences with “Happy for No Reason.”

To Your Personal Happiness,

Pete Bissonette

President of Learning Strategies

Eager student of Marci Shimoff

Great fan of the treasure of “Happy for No Reason”

P.S. – Here are reviews from 21 people you may recognize:

1)

“With Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has hit a home run. This book presents a definitive, broad-based approach to becoming truly happy that combines great spiritual depth, top-notch research, and psychological practicality. I’m certain that if you follow the practices in her dazzling new book, you too will manifest a lifetime of happiness.”

— From the foreword by Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles and co-creator of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series

2)

“You can’t depend on external circumstances for lasting happiness. It has to come from inside you. Based on scientific research and the experiences of truly happy people, Happy for No Reason shows you step-by-step how to raise your happiness set-point.”

— Mehmet C. Oz MD, coauthor of You: on a Diet and You: Staying Young

3)

“Marci Shimoff is one of the most compelling people I’ve ever known. I’m happy she’s shared her wisdom with all of us in Happy for No Reason.”

— Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love

4)

“Happy for No Reason offers seven clear, powerful and effective steps you can practice to be happier right now!”

— John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

5)

“This book is a wonderful collection of techniques and examples, shared by people who have had one of the most important realizations I think we can have — that we already have within us the ability to live in a state of Happy for No Reason.”

— Lindsay Wagner, “The Bionic Woman,” Emmy Award-winning actress

6)

“Tremendous! Marci Shimoff has produced a book that is practical, inspiring, and accessible. Happy for No Reason gives readers powerful ways to become happier in all dimensions of life: body, mind, heart, soul, personal power, purpose, and relationships. It’s seven books holistically rolled into one.”
— Stephen M. R. Covey, bestselling Author of The Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything

7)

“I love this practical approach to true happiness. The real-life stories of people who are Happy for No Reason are extraordinarily moving and inspiring — just reading this book made me happier!”

— Olivia Hussey, Golden Globe Award-winning Actress

8)

“If you want to be happy (and who doesn’t?) Marci Shimoff has — amazingly — “cracked the code” for doing so. This isn’t the latest pop-psychology craze. Instead, it’s based on the latest scientific research about real and lasting happiness. What if you (or your loved ones) really could be happy, regardless, of circumstances? Happy for No Reason shows you how–and it’s easier than you think. This remarkable book is sure to change a lot of lives, including yours.”

— Bill Harris, Director of Centerpointe Research Institute

9)

“Happy for No Reason offers an engaging, wise and profound look at happiness that can change your life. Marci Shimoff has creatively crafted a purposeful guide to assist us in experiencing the gift of happiness.”

— Chaka Khan, Grammy Award-winning Singer & Songwriter, Author, and Philanthropist

10)

“Rule #1 for happiness: READ THIS BOOK! Be happy for no reason, because everything else comes from that. If you want health, wealth and wisdom, follow the Happiness Habits presented in these pages and transform your life.”

— Phil Town, #1 New York Times bestselling Author of Rule #1, Host of CNBC show, Rebel Investor

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook?aff=«Affiliate_Code»  

11)

“In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff shares a new paradigm of happiness, rooted in ancient wisdom, yet validated by cutting-edge research in the fields of both neuroscience and positive psychology. I was enthralled the whole way through.”
— Candace B. Pert, PhD, Scientific Director RAPID Pharmaceuticals, featured in the film What the Bleep Do We Know!? and Author of Everything You Need to Know to Feel Go(o)d

12)

“Happy for No Reason is the most important book about happiness you’ll ever read! A completely unique and life-changing approach to being happy no matter what.”

— Raymond Aaron, Canada’s #1 Business and Investment Coach

13)

“Marci Shimoff has opened a new era of inner peace for humanity with her brilliant work. The search for happiness now starts and ends inside us as we raise our happiness set-point using her insightful guidance. As an educator, I’m most impressed at how Marci presents a complex topic in an easy-to-read and easy-to-share book. I recommend it happily!”

— Paul R. Scheele, Co-founder, Learning Strategies Corporation, Author, Natural Brilliance and PhotoReading

14)

“Happy for No Reason is a wonderful guide for how to be happier as individuals, and how to share that happiness with our families, our communities and our world. Everyone will benefit from the wisdom and coaching that this valuable book offers.”

— Dr. Bill and Kathy Magee, CEO and President, Co-founders of Operation Smile

15)

“Happy for No Reason offers a practical and hopeful solution to fear, depression, anxiety, and stress. Here’s the secret: Each of us has the ability to focus on joy and happiness –regardless of what is going on in the world. And therein lies our power… and ability to be healthy and happy. This book is a winner.”

— Christiane Northrup, M.D., Author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause

16)

“Wonderful! This book provides a program that will bring you powerful results. Finding lasting happiness has never been as clear and easy.”

— Bobbi DePorter, Co-founder and President, Quantum Learning Network/SuperCamp.

17)

“Happy for No Reason not only reports on the lofty science of happiness, but the authors also wisely remember to include stories from the lives of everyday people.”

— Robert Biswas-Diener, Program Director for Education and Learning, Center for Applied Positive Psychology (UK)

18)

“Wealth and Success are meaningless without happiness! Happy for No Reason shows you how to be happy wherever you are in life.”

— Dr. Ivan Misner, Chairman and Founder of BNI (Business Networks International)

19)

“Happy for No Reason is THE premier book for any person wanting to experience more happiness. Keep it by your bedstand! It’s an important book to show you how you can be happy every day.”

— Jill Lublin, International Speaker and bestselling Author of Guerrilla Publicity, Networking Magic and Get Noticed

20)

“This book will change the way you think about happiness. In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has plenty of reasons to share this wisdom. If you want more joy, peace and well-being in life, this book is for you.”

–Yakov Smirnoff, MAPP (Master of Applied Positive Psychology) and Comedian

21)

“If you are looking for a book to profoundly and positively uplift your life in the most glorious of ways, you will find it in Happy for No Reason. It’s captivating, eye-opening, and life-changing.”

Peggy McColl, New York Times bestselling Author of Your Destiny Switch

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook?aff=«Affiliate_Code»  

P.P.S. – Truth is emerging: Being happy IS how to have it all. It used to be that if we couldn’t have it all, we would at least want happiness. We now know that if you have happiness, everything else can flow to you. Order Marci’s new book today, and then claim the special bonuses and resources.

http://www.HappyForNoReason.com/MyBook

I hope you learned as much as I did in this letter! Go out and get your copy of Happy for No Reason. I’ve got an autographed copy and I cherish it!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan

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