Dear Dr. Karen,
I really need some advice with manifesting a husband. Is it unrealistic to ask for him to look like a guy I work with? The key is that I need a man whom I find very attractive physically. I am just not sure how to visualise the good looks without needing to use this guy as a blueprint.
Basically, If I get a man who does look just like him i.e. gorgeous, I will be very happy, but I am open to having someone just as gorgeous but in a different way. How should I incorporate this into my visualisation? I can’t simply say ”I want a man with brown eyes and dark hair.” I need to find him attractive-there are millions of men out there with brown hair and eyes whom I do not attractive. Is it better to use him as a blueprint so that my visualisations will be specific, or am I limiting myself?
Can I say “I would like him to look like this guy but I would be happy with someone just as gorgeous who doesnt look exactly like him” but then use him as a blueprint just so I have something concrete to focus on. If I do this, how precise will my results be? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks, Bekah
Dear Bekah,
Great question. I’m glad you asked. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to manifest a gorgeous partner! I certainly asked for (and received) exactly that!
My answer is this: you can use the energy (the feeling) of how attracted you are with this co-worker to help invoke the law of attraction to co-create your dream partner. You are correct in saying that “I want someone with dark hair and brown eyes” may not be specific enough.
So this is what you do: simply write down, “My dream partner is gorgeous, with dark hair and brown eyes”. This statement is simple and yet encompasses your desires. The Universe already knows what you find attractive so you don’t actually have to spell it out. On the other hand, sometimes people err on the side of vagueness so I appreciate your desire to be specific.
If you read the testimonial by Suzanne on my home page, you’ll learn that she cut out a photo of a dashing professor and pasted it onto her vision board, knowing full well that she had no intention of actually manifesting HIM as her ideal partner. In the end, she manifested another man, a professor as well, who looked very much like the one she admired.
So go ahead and use your attraction to get CLEAR on what kind of attractive partner you really want to manifest.
Oh, there is one thing I need to add. You need to feel AS attractive about yourself as you do to him. Like attracts like – that’s the law of attraction. So learn to love and admire yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Then, it will be a snap!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
