Hello Dr. Karen,
My question is: If I want to find love, besides thinking positively, what other things can also help me? If I put pictures on my wall, what kind of pictures would they be?
Mary (not her real name)
Dear Mary,
Positive thinking is helpful, but it isn’t the way you harness the law of attraction (please see my post on the Law of Attraction is not positive thinking). What you want to do with your visualizations, if that is a tool that resonates with you, is to choose pictures that give you an emotional reaction. In other words, choose photos and pictures that inspire you when you look at them.
It isn’t the positive thought that brings about the wanted outcome or intention. It is the positive feeling that stems from the positive thought. All the positive thinking in the world won’t do anyone any good if there isn’t an associated feeling of inspiration, passion, joy and fulfillment. See the difference?
I have a relative that tells me that she always thinks positively and is fairly good at reframing negative situations, yet whenever she goes to the bank, she complains constantly that the workers at the bank are incompetent and always make mistakes. Guess what? She’s right! They DO always make mistakes…around HER. Even though she considers herself a positive thinker, she hasn’t become conscious of her repetitive negative programming.
Creating a visual reminder of your dream come true may help to rewire some of your programming. A dream board or a vision board can be created by cutting out photos from magazines and pasting them to a poster board. I have friends who have such a big dream board, it fills up an entire wall!
I use a cut-and-paste type vision board, but I also use a dynamic vision board – one that associates inspiring music and affirmations with each photo. You can create your own at www.amazingvisionboards.com. I have one for career, one for health, one for wealth etc.
The purpose of the visual reminder is for you to get into the vibration (emotionally) of already having received your intention (your dream partner). The more you can stay in this vibration of already having received, the faster your dream partner will come to you.
Also, imagine that everything that happens to you from this day forth is meant to be…and will lead you to the dream partner you desire. Some situations may come up that you may consider negative, and that’s where the “positive” attitude can come in – reframe the so-called negative situation into a positive one, and understand that everything happens for a reason and that reason is there to serve you.
The more you can have overall peace and fulfillment in your life, the happier your life will be with or without a partner…and the happier you are, the more you’ll find very many wonderful potential partners to share your life with!
Blessings,
Dr. Karen Kan
