Dear Esraa,

The lovely thing about the law of attraction is that is works for everyone including the man you love. You are responsible for co-creating your reality with The Universe and so is he. The law of attraction states that similar vibrations are attracted to each other. What that means in a practical sense is that his vibration must be similar to yours in order for you both to become attracted to each other.

Each of our vibrations are created through our own thoughts and emotions. Thus, you cannot control another person’s thoughts or emotions can you? You can try to, but we call that manipulation, and it doesn’t really get you a happy relationship in the end! The bottom line is this: you can use every law of attraction technique in the book to try to attract your love to you, but if his own thoughts and desires are of a different wavelength, you’re out of luck.

That being said, let me tell you what you CAN do. You can send loving thoughts and wishes to this man, and in sending them, also send the feeling of being unattached to the outcome of what you want (i.e. being with him). In other words, if you wrote a pretend letter to him, it would go something like this:

“Dear _______, I want you to know how much I love you. And I realize that in order to love you fully, I am letting go of all attachment to us being together. I’d love for us to share our lives together because I love you so much. Yet, because I love you, I want to respect your path and your vision of how you want to live. I pray you live a happy, healthy and prosperous life. If we are meant for each other, I rejoice. If we are not, I may be sad at first, but eventually I’ll rejoice in knowing that I have supported you in your freedom of choice to live your life the way you see fit – and for that I feel good. And if we are not to be together, then I will rejoice in knowing that there is someone else special for me that The Universe has in mind. Bless you. Love, Esraa”

Esraa, you can make up your own pretend letter. The purpose of the letter is to train you to let go of your attachment to having THIS particular man love you. Your attachment actually blocks your manifestation. It is loving unattachment that brings our manfestations quickly to us. What I’ve noticed in the “real” world is that often, when you let go of desparately wanting someone, they are more attracted to you. Few people are attracted to a desperate or needy lover – in fact often, they want to run the other direction!

If you can somehow get into the mindset of “I’m amazing! and anyone having a relationship wtih me is incredibly blessed”, just wait and see who turns up! You may have to work at it, but when you can actually practice this feeling, miracles happen!

Blessings,

Dr. Karen Kan